Twenty years old and I still can't talk to girls....fml

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Originally Posted by mr.spooky

maby our ideas of a pimp is different. Guess I should have used the word confident. Confident like a pimp.

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I got what you meant spooky but ya that was sorta a poor way to word it lololol.

I am married and I still can't talk to them. Online dating FTW!

Like this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqjaPZEt0KY

One thing that helps me alot (granted i am not by any means a ladies man) that has slightly been touched on is confidence.

ways that I personally boost my confidence expecially going out is dressing in what im confortable, yet I feel good in. also something like getting a hair cut or shaving or something minor like that could help, just make you feel better about yourself which would make you want to interact more.

In my opinion, and how I approach it is, (this is more for going out to places) there are good ways to be noticed and bad ways to be noticed. good way being the guy whos slightly over dressed yet looks sharp, and confident, then the guy who looks like a slob.

And the best tool you could ever use, is your female friends. mine help me with all different aspects, from style to conversation approaches to female signs ect. ect.

Hope this helps, again its my opinion, just do what makes you feel comfortable and dont over think anything, expecially the conversation, because thats when youll get nervous. happens to me alot.

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Originally Posted by BFT12890

Hope this helps, again its my opinion, just do what makes you feel comfortable and dont over think anything, expecially the conversation, because thats when youll get nervous. happens to me alot.

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the worst is when you get nervous and combine words/phrases lmao.
For example: I hold the door open for a pretty girl and she says thank you. Then i try and say youre welcome and no problem at the same time so what comes out is "no welcome!" or "your problem!".... can you say awkward haha!

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

the worst is when you get nervous and combine words/phrases lmao.
For example: I hold the door open for a pretty girl and she says thank you. Then i try and say youre welcome and no problem at the same time so what comes out is "no welcome!" or "your problem!".... can you say awkward haha!

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Haha right! thats when you semi redeem yourself by laughing about it and trying again while attempting to act a little more cool, or just running away real quick. hahaha

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Originally Posted by Raptor

As far as I know, there's only one meaning behind that word.

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:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

It's real easy to give advice but quite another thing to put if to practice.but here's my two cents. Flirt being a little flirtatious can go a long way just don't get carried away could you might come off as obnoxious . there's nothing wrong with a little flirting or even a line. it's kind of like a knock at the door. if they don't respond well then move on . you definitely don't want to get involved with somebody that snooty stuck up or conceited . there's plenty of nice girls around. Also don't always go for the pretty ones there too pretty that maybe part of the reason you get nervous around them. don't overlook the ones that are maybe not as pretty but funny or have good personalities or just nice . beauty can fade but a good personality never will . Lastly just don't sweat it its really no big deal to get rejected.believe me I got shot down plenty of times before I married my beautiful wife. Good luck

Being the flirtatious sort I never had much of a problem. Just be confident, be yourself and being humorous never hurts. I once jokingly told a girl that I was gonna marry her and she was going to have my babies after just meeting her. It works with my personality, I wouldnt recommend you say that though, granted I did end up marrying her and she has had two of my children thus far. I am pyschic I suppose.

Let me give you some perspective from an older guy (46 years old, married twice, been single for 9 years now). It took me a long time to figure out that the key to talking to women was to talk with women. A subtle difference, to be sure, but an important one. Simple conversation is the best way to discover if you have any common interests, which can become the building blocks for something more. Back when I thought I had to talk to women in order to get a hook up, it always led to disaster, embarrassment and usually rejection. After doing some self-analysis on my successful relationships versus my crash and burn episodes, I realized that I was at my most successful when I was engaging the woman in natural conversation that resulted in two way communication. The bottom line for me was that talking to women felt fake, while talking with women felt real. And, and the song says, "Ain't nothin' like the real thang' Baby."