Think I'm going to take a break from snakes for a while

I guess I'm one of the lucky girls born loving reptiles, and even luckier my boyfriend loves 'em too. :love:

I think you're making the right choice, your marriage is important. It might sound cold to your snakes, but you can always get another one if she comes around, or even possibly get your Bloods back from your brother. Maybe she doesn't like the size, and you could get something smaller; I've heard Bloods are pretty big/girthy. Compromise goes a long way, and she might feel comfortable down the line getting a baby Ball or Cornsnake. :)

I think you are doing the right thing.

It's okay to let her know you love her by respecting her wishes here. And it's also okay to let her know WHY you are doing it. Something like, " Honey, I know that my snakes make you uncomfortable, so I'm willing to let them go if it makes you feel better."

If she knows you care about her feelings and respect her wishes, she's going to be a lot more likely to come around in time. If she feels like you resent her for it, or that you are only doing it to "shut her up" so to speak, she is not likely to want them back, ever.

My husband hunts, a LOT. I used to make his life miserable over it. I gave him guilt trips, to him he didn't love me, oh I was a real {another word for a female dog}. He resented me for the way I was, but it didn't stop me. The thing was, he wouldn't stop hunting. No matter how much of a baby I was, or how badly I made him feel, he wouldn't stop it completely. I did succeed in making him go less often, but not stop. We fought over that for years and years. Eventually, I grew up some and stopped being such a pain.

While I accept him going now, I still hate it that he's gone so much. So it's kind of an uneasy truce. I still believe if we had gone about it better, if I had been more mature and he'd been willing to respect my wishes, it would have helped our relationship a great deal.

Gale