HELP! need to make a choice

I'm glad you are getting Ivy. You were already attached to her and I don't think you'll be sorry. I have to ask, how does your sister feel about you getting another snake? Even though you're taking care of them, it's still her house. Is she ok with all of this??? Good luck to you both!

she has 12 of her own ball pythons plus my boyfriend and my 23

lol wow i just got calls from 3 local RTB breeders that know of ivy from the shop im getting her from and either want her or wanna breed their males too her...she is my girl...the snakes they wanna breed her to is a het albino, albino, and a wild. any suggestions on what to do?:D:P:confused:

dang it. ok. what to do. my sister dosent want me to let my bf (she dosent know me and him r together) to have anything to do with ivy when i bring her there...

Your sister doesn't know he's your boyfriend?!?! And he's her husband's roomate?? Sorry, maybe I'm "behind the times" but does anyone else find this a bit odd?? :confused::confused:

First of all, you'd better tell her you're together. If he's living with her, she has the right to know. Plus, it's her house. Period. I don't care if she has 100 of her own snakes. If your snake is living there, it's under her rules. She is ultimately responsible since it's under her roof. She has the right to say no one but her and you can touch it. That may be just my opinion, but there it is. She might feel differently if she knows you two are together....

Secondly, I certainly would not allow someone to breed your snake. There are LOTS of threads here describing co-breeding and all the caveats - take a look. But all that aside, questions to ask yourself are - what would YOU get out of the deal? Are these other snakes healthy? Mite-free? WHY do these people want Ivy so badly to breed to and why didn't THEY buy her when they had the chance? AND HOW THE HECK DID THEY GET YOUR PHONE NUMBER????? A pet shop that just randomly gave out your personal information to someone just cause they said they were a breeder interested in Ivy is so wrong I have no words. I would be in that manager's office so fast it'd make their heads spin. Unbelievably unprofessional. :colbert: Again, these are just my .02....

You have some serious thinking to do BEFORE your bring Ivy or any other snake home.....

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Your sister doesn't know he's your boyfriend?!?! And he's her husband's roomate?? Sorry, maybe I'm "behind the times" but does anyone else find this a bit odd?? :confused::confused:

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I am starting to feel like I am watching another "Springer" show.......
Really, your sister needs to know the WHOLE story. She may trust you now, BUT if she finds out there is other stuff going on behind her back, Your snakes might be homeless!!!!!

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AND HOW THE HECK DID THEY GET YOUR PHONE NUMBER????? A pet shop that just randomly gave out your personal information to someone just cause they said they were a breeder interested in Ivy is so wrong I have no words.

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That is one BIG NO!! I dont care if you are a friend of mine that has my number and someone is dying and my 0+ blood could save them. YOU CALL ME FIRST TO SEE IF IT IS COOL TO GIVE THEM MY NUMBER! I, personally, (if you havent put a deposit down on Ivy) wouldnt even buy the boa from them if they were giving out my number.

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Originally Posted by Evenstar

Your sister doesn't know he's your boyfriend?!?! And he's her husband's roomate?? Sorry, maybe I'm "behind the times" but does anyone else find this a bit odd?? :confused::confused:

First of all, you'd better tell her you're together. If he's living with her, she has the right to know. Plus, it's her house. Period. I don't care if she has 100 of her own snakes. If your snake is living there, it's under her rules. She is ultimately responsible since it's under her roof. She has the right to say no one but her and you can touch it. That may be just my opinion, but there it is. She might feel differently if she knows you two are together....

Secondly, I certainly would not allow someone to breed your snake. There are LOTS of threads here describing co-breeding and all the caveats - take a look. But all that aside, questions to ask yourself are - what would YOU get out of the deal? Are these other snakes healthy? Mite-free? WHY do these people want Ivy so badly to breed to and why didn't THEY buy her when they had the chance? AND HOW THE HECK DID THEY GET YOUR PHONE NUMBER????? A pet shop that just randomly gave out your personal information to someone just cause they said they were a breeder interested in Ivy is so wrong I have no words. I would be in that manager's office so fast it'd make their heads spin. Unbelievably unprofessional. :colbert: Again, these are just my .02....

You have some serious thinking to do BEFORE your bring Ivy or any other snake home.....

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these's breeder's are a few friends of mine i got started and they excelled. i help them care for the snakes and they are really healthy altho they have additude issues.they didnt want her or know of her till after i put her on hold. and on the boyfriend thing, id perfer them not know in with him because i dont want them to try and tear us apart. it is a very complecated situatiion me and my bf r in. there is a age difference between us and my sister is totaly against us till after im 18. as soon as im 18 i am telling her that i love him and wanna be with him, the ring on my finger proves it.

Honey, I'm sorry you are in this position and you are right - we don't know the whole complicated story. But frankly, your sister has a point. And if she is taking care of your snake under her roof, she has the right to know and she SHOULD know. You are putting yourself, your boyfriend, and your snakes (all of them) in a very precarious position. I wish you the best, I really do, but I don't feel there is much else we are going to be able to help you with. This really is turning soap-opera. Maturity takes many forms and sometimes the mature and responsible thing to do is not the thing you want to do. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Good luck!

ty. great:rolleyes::( on top of this all my snake reno is acting strange now...