How do you guys do it.

Get some sleep.
Get over the ex. Why even go to places he goes? Does he murder people often?

Be true to yourself.

Eat healthy and have fun!

Take a self defense class.
It's a good way to start to learn to empower yourself.
You will learn how to protect yourself and in knowing YOU know how, it
will help you to be more relaxed in your own environment.

You learn to stand up for yourself and the bullies see this they back down and fade away.

Also a ball bat in a few selective locations throughout the home is helpful ;)

I saw this post and immeditly thought of this song, hopfully it will cheer you up. I know that when ever im feeling down it makes me feel sooo much better.

YouTube - Streetlight Manifesto - A Better Place, A Better Time

:) hope you cheer up.

laura my life too has been threatened by my then ex. im still here 8 yrs later. chances are he just HAD to have something to say to affect you since you dumped him and put him in a vulnerable position. every one else stole the words right out of my mouth.
keep living your life for you (& your animals), get some sleep, a bit of your favorite comfort food...oh and a routine. a good 'ol routine cant hurt.
i clean when im really upset...strange huh? works for me.
anyways, good luck. [hugs]

situations like this can be tough. often i get those feelings of no one else caring for me and that im the only one that cares about me. I have a wonderful girlfriend who cares about me (sometimes too much) so I don't have to feel like that anymore. don't let your problems put you down because the more you think about them the more they will get to you. things I do to get away from my problems: watch my favorite movies, blast my favorite music, play video games all day (killing is always fun/stress relieving), and sometimes hang out with friends. go out and try and enjoy life, your ex may be giving you a hard time and you may not want to go anywhere, but dont let that stop you from enjoying yourself. as a matter of fact, carry pepper spray and/or taser if he somehow shows up :D, but that's just me and my evil mind. im 21 too and as long as I don't think about things, they don't bother me.

its all good, not telling you to get over it, but it will get better, also no crackhead, im broke and will do for 10