Yes sir!

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Originally Posted by zeke

I may live in this hell hole, but I WILL NOT act like the rest of the people in it..

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Hey now! Let's clarify...there is NYC then there is the rest of the state, I'm in Albany and we are pretty polite here. We hold doors and say 'hi' :)
I've never even thought twice about being called ma'am but really don't like the whole 'hon', 'darling', 'sweety' thing...makes me insane!
When I was little we (me and my siblings) called everyone Mr., Mrs. or Miss, no exceptions, ever. A close family friend tried in vain for years to get us all to call her by her first name, we just couldn't bring ourselves to do it. I ran into her a few years back and called her Mrs. Smith, she just cracked up but I STILL can't call her by her first name! lol.
My sister is teaching her kids to use Miss and Mr. and the person's first name, it was funny when one of them insisted I was Miss Auntie K...I got them to drop the Miss. LOL

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Originally Posted by zeke

I guess its the area I'm in... oh well, its not gonna change who I am. thank you all.

Cheers!

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I would guess it is. Have a little faith in humanity...

Where I live people don't say sir or ma'am as far as i know but they're still polite. (usually)

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Originally Posted by Seru1

I have to, thats why I taught myself to be a rude degenerate. Now when I am respectful I still hold doors and say yes sir yes ma'am.


But if someone gets an attitude or isn't worthy of respect I don't shy away from saying "Get out of my way you old coot."


Because honestly, some people deserve it.

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with you on this one if people dont show respect they dont get it shown back from me. i had an older gentleman cut in front of me in the shop the other day like i never existed he got a "oi theres a que here move it"
i was brought up with the saying manners dont cost anything so flipping use them:P got to love bikers for parents lol

Try massachusetts, where everyone here has that nickname that's basically the swear word for bum hole, except it starts with an m. It's all dirty looks, cold shoulders, and road rage here. I've been spit on by a total stranger once, too. It's not to say that there aren't nice people here, but sometimes it seems like they're few and far between. I mean, really, it's not that hard to smile and say thanks when someone holds a door open for you, but everyone I've ever done it for has been a total crank.

I actually think you answered you own rant with "Alot of people these days are rude, and they dont care. It has become the "NORM" to be rude."

I for one applaud you efforts. I love good manners (aka common sense values) but that seems not to be the norm, unfortunately.

I guess that's why I watched so many of the Andy Griffith Show DVD's over and over and over.

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Originally Posted by punkoldschool

with you on this one if people dont show respect they dont get it shown back from me. i had an older gentleman cut in front of me in the shop the other day like i never existed he got a "oi theres a que here move it"
i was brought up with the saying manners dont cost anything so flipping use them:P got to love bikers for parents lol

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Some people think they deserve respect just for not dying.


Sorry thats a load of crap.


You earn respect by being intelligent, kind, and wise. Now if an older person were to ask to go ahead of me in line nicely and I could see they were infirm I would gladly yield unless I had like 4 items and they had 15 (cause you know they are gonna pay with a check and take forever and I'll be gone in a minute with my beer and frozen dinners.)


I'm just saying you better do more than just not die if you want respect. You also better do more than just having a certain Chromazone or skin color. I judge you for who you are not what you are.

I'm 24 and I would prefer people don't call me 'sir', especially people in a service job.

However when they do call me 'sir', I don't get annoyed at anyone but myself.

It's not about age, and it's not about respect. It's about them acting subservient towards me. I want to thank THEM, not the other way around.

Manners and respect will get the same from me, but it's my opinion that you can show respect and kindness without formality. Formality only creates separation and borders.

Not sure if anyone else shared the same thing, but the one that ticks me off the most is when someone bumps into me and pretends that nothing happened. That is flat out rude.

One thing that made me smile this week...
At the baseball game a guy behind me was running to catch the foul ball. As soon as he saw two little kids running to get it, he backed off and made sure they got the ball. As the kids were leaving with their dad they said thank you to the guy. :)

Courtesy and respect go a long ways with me.

Ok so not all new yorkers treat people like trash. but the area i'm in it is an every day thing around here.. to all the respectful NYers out there thank you for not being the "norm"..


Cheers

I grew up in Michigan, and don't find 'ma'am' to be in any way an offensive thing to say.
I have heard some ex Army guys saying "Don't call me Sir; I work for a living", though, lol.

I always hold the door for people behind me, regardless of who they are--the older guys appear utterly bemused by this, so it's fun.