Do Girls want a huge engagement ring...

Ok first of let me say that I think that a ring is a symbol of your love, and its only recently in history that diamonds were involved at all. The diamond trade has also caused horrible pain and suffering in the world. All that said its not a point I would draw a line in the sand for. Most women are going to want a diamond engagement ring. Its not surprising to me that the women on this sight tend to care much less than the general population. Thats not a good or a bad thing, it just is. The diamond is not to small if you saved as much as you could for as long as you should. Now to define could and should. Did you save whole heartedly? If you were out drinking with your friends or buying non essential (that includes snakes people) then maybe she feels that you didn't show the dedication to her that she is looking for. I saved for my fiancée's ring for about a year we have been together for almost 6 years. I spent 10 weeks worth of gross pay. I spent way to much she said. She is probably right. Now I am not saying anyone else should do the same. I make decent money and the more you make the more you can afford to save. When we first met I made a lot less and I could never have come close to 10 weeks gross pay. I needed that for food and shelter and any extra was used to put her through grad school. The point is did you make sacrifices personally and save for long enough. A proposal should take more than a month to gear up for. At the end of the day only you and her know the truth. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Return the ring if you can and find someone with values more like your own. At the end of the day I put so much time into learning about diamonds and the various metals that settings are made of, so much time looking for the right center stone and the right jeweler, I would have been so devastated by an "it's too small" that I am sure I would be single right now.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by SlitherinSisters

Just so people know, the guy is a spammer and no longer with us....

It's an interesting thread, just don't feel sorry for this tool ;)

---

Either way, it is nice to see some honest opinions from women:D:D

This thread reminds me of Thomas More's Utopia. The Utopians didn't understand the concept of gems and gold particularly, it was questioned a lot at the time. I believe the quote was something like... why should gold be worth more than a human when humans were the ones who gave it its worth and why would man need something like that when he can simply look at the stars in the sky. However, that was when gold was starting to become extremely popular and expensive.

The ring my fiance proposed to me with doesn't have a white diamond. It's a matte silver titanium tension setting with a sapphire in the middle and four small black sapphires and two even smaller black diamonds [blue sapphire in the middle with three black stones radiating down the band on either side]. It's not huge, it's not that noticeable or shiny like a diamond ring, but it's more me than any other ring I've ever seen. It's gorgeous, it came from the heart, and I said yes because I love him, not because of the ring. He could've asked without a ring and I would've been just as happy to say yes. Denying someone because of the ring isn't a huge diamond or expensive is dumb imo.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by PitOnTheProwl

Either way, it is nice to see some honest opinions from women:D:D

---

Lol, I suppose so ;) I'll join in now that people won't feel sorry for the OP.

I was very very particular about what I wanted, so I found the ring I wanted and took my, now fiance, to the shop and said "that one" :P I wanted a stone that was flush with the band. So it's sort of a tension setting, the stone looks like it's floating, but the ring is resizeable. I don't have a full karat either, by my choice. The band has to be as wide as the stone with this setting. It's also a euro band, square on the bottom, so it doesn't spin around my finger. I love my euro band, it's definitely a style worth checking out when looking for a ring!

Also, if you are going to buy a white gold ring or want a white gold ring it will have to be rhodium plated once or twice a year. It sucks to give up your engagement/wedding ring every year, but it will need it!

Oh, and I'll admit it, I thought really long and hard about getting a real stone or a snake :P But....the snake can die and can't be covered under insurance.

Def Not! I personally think "huge rocks" look rather gaudy and fake. I would be perfectly content with just a band and no stone. My bf and i have talked about this when we see our friends get "engaged" and just think that we would rather use the money elsewhere than on big fancy schmancy ring.

Has no one figured out that this is spam?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Wh00h0069

Has no one figured out that this is spam?

---

Yes, but it is still an interesting topic:gj:

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by PitOnTheProwl

Yes, but it is still an interesting topic:gj:

---

I see. I didn't read through all of the posts, but it seemed at the end people were actually feeling sorry for the OP.

As a woman, I love the ring that my husband got for me because it was the ring that he chose and got for ME. It could have been a ring from a gumball machine and I would still cherish it the way I do. So, in my opinion, no we do not want big engagement rings.

Too bad it was spam....so interesting!

Ok....I am a little materialistic....and I like big diamonds...big houses...lots of toys...etc!!!:please: Hey at least I can admitt it!!

However when my hubby proposed to me....it was not a "big" ring. It was what he could afford and that was fine with me. Afterall....I was marrying him..FINALLY..not the ring. I was happy with it. He took it to get it checked one December and came back without MY rings. He came in with a much much bigger diamond.....and a much higher quality. At first I was a little weary of it as it was not my original...but I love it! Now we always joke....OK...when is my next upgrade....lol Which is about the price of a luxury car....Honestly...if it happens awesome....but its really not important. He just asks me....when are you going to stop buying expensive reptiles....:P:P:P I just really like big shiny things....:P

Yea I didn't read the part where it was spam, should have read all 7 pages I guess, lol. I agree, interesting thread and interesting to see people's opinions.

First useful spam I've ever seen. ^^

I don't like rings at all and didn't get an engagement ring. There's just SO much more I'd rather spend money on. I have a $125 wedding ring that suits me better than anything I've seen since and got married at the courthouse for $15. I don't really see the allure of making a big deal of it all...I found my feelings for my husband to be extremely personal and didn't want to put them up for show to the whole world. Also, way too much stress and pressure involved in the traditional stuff. :)

Sometimes I struggle knowing that I have anything of value at all. I constantly think of the things the cost of this laptop, for example, could do for someone down on their luck, or even starving or sick. It's a constant struggle for me. I like cars a lot, but it makes me a little queazy to see people driving around in $100,000+ cars--if only that money could have been invested in something valuable, or in places other than that person's driveway. That being said, of course I want a comfortable life--not lavish, but comfortable. I don't know why it gets to me so much, but it does. I don't judge people for showing off their money, but do feel disappointed sometimes in the affluent human condition (of course of which I too am very guilty). All that taken into consideration, I'm going to buy my girlfriend (of 3+ years) a very nice ring. Not because she needs it, or even wants it, but because I want her to know she is special to me and worth every cent. The reality is that we spend money constantly to make ourselves happy, and I might as well spend a good chunk of change making her happy, it's more important to me. I know how and where I want to propose, and I know what ring I'm going to buy her, I only need the financial stability to do it all. I think the money I spend on that ring will carry a lot less regret than the money I spend on other frivolous things, my t.v. and computer included.

Cheers,
-Matt