A question for the Married or living together couples

My live in Girlfriend soon to be fiancée if I play my cards right was very supportive of my decision to get my BP. She got sick of all the reading I did prior to buying her and often said "Just pull the trigger already." When I finally did pull the trigger she asked that I setup the cage so that it looked as natural and appealing as possible. She later helped me pick out a molded plastic 3x2 cage from Showcase cages. She wanted something that looked like it belonged in our home and understood that it was going to cost a lot more. She will hold the BP while I clean her cage and she looks at her and talks to her when shes out exploring at night. Now that I have gotten all that out of the way, she really doesn't like snakes. She enjoys the happiness the hobby brings me and she makes an effort to learn because she loves me. She knows that I am seriously thinking about getting a JCP so her new things is "You get me my ring and you can get your snake."

I wasn't into reptiles till I met my boyfriend 3 years ago. He grew up having all sorts of reptiles but no snakes. He actually didn't have any reptiles at the time we met but had thought about getting back into them. Me being the animal lover said lets do it. Ended up I actually got the first one with my Bearded Dragon. Then I started getting Corn Snakes. After that came the Crested Geckos. Finally he started getting his own reptiles again. It wasn't until after I had my Corn Snakes for awhile that I thought I could handle a Ball Python so I went and bought a normal male. It didn't take long after I got him home that my bf was like I want one and ran out and bought a normal female. So I can definitely say we both take care of the growing collection of reptiles. And of course I was the one who started the asf breeding, but he still helps with cleaning and feeding off. :D Now days I just try to keep him from getting anymore Uromastyx's as the 5 we already have plus the Bearded Dragon's keep our electric bill high all year. Which of course just means getting more Crested Gecko's. ;)

I am very lucky...it's not unusual for me to get home and my wife have all the snakes cleaned, about 80, except for 2 or 3 nippy females. She pitches in on all the chores except the rodents, she will not go in the rat barn unless I ask her to. She loves reptile shows and is getting pretty knowlegable about the snakes...I am very lucky.

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Originally Posted by monk90222

My wife is deathly afraid of snakes. She doesn't help one bit. Actually she hasn't been in the snake room in like 3 years.

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Yea Charlie but she is HOT!! That makes up for it...lol

My girlfriend helps by holding the snakes while I clean. On the plus side this means I don't have to change diapers. My part of the deal lol. Sadly, if this relationship ends, which it looks like it may, I hope my next one is as understanding about the snakes.

My husband is not as interested in the snakes as I am (he actually prefers arachnids, and may be working with them eventually--his desert hairy scorpion is his current love). However, he does understand that this is a business rather than just a hobby, so he helps me out with all of the chores without complaining. (I have CFS, so the amount I can do varies unpredictably).
*yep--I married a winner* :)

My SO will occasionally take his Dumerils out, maybe look at mine on VERY rare occasions but other than that, he is totally hands off. He doesn't mind them, but hates that I spend money on them.

My wife handles the majority of the day to day maintence.

My GF & I have lived together for several years and have 2 geckos, a leopard & a crested. She loves them both dearly, and while I do most of the gecko-related chores, she definitely does help when needed. Right at the moment, she's actually doing 100% of their care due to some unfortunate circumstances in our life, but that's another story...

The only snag we have is that I'd really like to get a snake in the future, and she's very hesitant about the types of snakes that I find attractive. I'd like to get a rainbow boa or an Irian Jaya carpet python, but she just doesn't like snakes with heads larger than their necks for some reason. Corn snakes, kingsnakes, etc are apparently ok, but those don't appeal to me. The really confusing part for me is that she's totally fine with the fact that my brother and other people have snakes like that, but doesn't feel ok living with one in the apartment (or house, should we be so lucky). I guess we're at an impasse...

My girlfriend is afraid of snakes, she cleans my 6 foot vision cages(uromastyx's), my gecko cages, etc. But she doesnt come near an open snake cage. She does do the majority of house cleaning, I wouldnt ask for a better girlfriend. Even if I did it isnt possible to find one :D

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Originally Posted by XGetSome

My girlfriend is afraid of snakes, she cleans my 6 foot vision cages(uromastyx's), my gecko cages, etc. But she doesnt come near an open snake cage. She does do the majority of house cleaning, I wouldnt ask for a better girlfriend. Even if I did it isnt possible to find one :D

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Then you are very lucky.

My wife Christine is a big help. So are my daughters. When we first got married 14 yrs ago Christine was scared of snakes. So I bought her her own snake to work with. Now she does not mind them at all. Now she is not going to go out to my room and get one out of the cage to hold but she is allways thier to help me if I need help in cleaning cages or holding the smaller stuff while I clean. She also helps me with our school presentation's. She also takes care of our beardied dragon's which are all in the house. She' great and she's my wife.

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Originally Posted by Patrick Long

We split the room.

She does babies and geckos

I do all the big stuff, plus a few babies here and there.

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I was gonna see if you responded to this one... Good answer... Tee hee...... It's pretty 50/50 when it's all said and done.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years, and have been living together for a little bit longer (started out as roommates). He knew I was an animal lover when we got together. He likes animals... just if it was up to him, he wouldn't have any, heh. He had one cat when I moved in, and I had three dogs, three cats, a horse, two geckos, a bird, a rat, etc... Now we have all together five dogs, four cats, the horse, 17 geckos, 10 snakes, a Horned Lizard, a turtle, and a rat.

He will occasionally feed/water the dogs, cats, and horse for me. He'll let the dogs in and outside, although I still have to ask him specifically sometimes (I work full-time, he's home most of the day). When I've gone out of town, he'll do it all. He hasn't cleaned the cat box since I moved in, but oh well. He really likes to talk to the rat, and will give him treats. As far as the reptiles go, he doesn't love them, but doesn't really mind them. He'll handle them if I get them out first, and I'll keep him up to date with what's going on in terms of feeding, babies, etc. Sometimes he resents that he no longer has a guest room, but I think it's only fair that I have my room in the house because he's got his office. I pay for almost everything for the animals - we split cat litter, and he's bought hay and feed for the horse a few times.

I think the best way to sum it up is that he tolerates the pets. They're really just my thing.

Yeah my boyfriend doesn't like snakes hopefully he'll come around before we get married. It's nice to know I'm not the only one out there.

My husband was kinda into the snakes in the beginning and even had his own king snake. The king snake escaped because of an ill fitted lid and ever since then has not had much to do with the snakes since. If I need him to hold a snake or fill a water dish, he will do it, but he won't do it without being asked first.

And he has admitted to tuning me out when I talk about my snakes and breeding them. :rolleyes:

My boyfriend of 3.5 years doesn't have anything to do with them. Although he did let me devote a room in the basement to the snakes!!! I agree with the others about how it's a good thing our other halves don't like the snakes or take care of them because they don't know how many we have :rofl: There was a long time that went by that my boyfriend didn't realize I was up to 6!