Terrible turn of events...

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

James, I'm very glad to read your friend has survived this and will hopefully get some help through the hospital's psych department. Please encourage this young man to continue to get support through ongoing counselling. Drinking and swallowing pills in the middle of the day was an incredibly dangerous activity and he very easily could have died had someone not found him in time.

Yes as a parent I can tell you this is one of the greatest things we fear, that one of our kids would do this in a moment of despair. My gut clenched when I read about his poor mom at the hospital.

Please encourage your friend to not be embarrassed or ashamed about this suicide attempt but rather to use it to figure out why he would feel so bad about this girl. Many people fight depression or crisis, some choose to deal with it this way but most get through it and with help or even medication go on to live good lives and find the right person that will love them. I would encourage you and all this young man's friends to show him lots of support, keep him away from the booze and pills and partying and help him remember why life is so very, very precious. Don't let anyone hassle or tease him, just be the good friends you are and stand by him while he works his way back from the darkness.

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Yes i can't even imagine what his mom was going through...i just spoke to her on the phone he was moved to a hospital closer to home and she said that she was so indebted to me for saving her son's life. I feel more relieved now to know that he's in the clear zone but he still needs to get a lot of things under control so he's goin to be in the hospital for a while longer...no worries he has all the support he needs and much more, he's a good kid and no one ever saw it coming, i couldn't sleep last night just thinking about all the what if's...but atleast he's with his family now.

Glad to hear he's recovering. He will still need your support. Anytime there is a suicide attempt they need to know you care, over and over. Sometimes the reason is so buried they don't know why they actually did it. Hopefully he gets counseling afterwards and continues for long enough to resolve whatever the cause was. I have been thru it myself. People thought my life was so wonderful and I couldn't see it. After multiple attempts and nearly crushing my parents , I got a great doctor. It made all the difference in the world. The main thing is support all around. No place for a "pity party", just love and support. There can't be too much love or support! My heart goes out to him.

Yea i know...thanks for your kind words, i'm glad you made it through your ordeal and didn't give up...that's what i told my friend that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem (i don't remember where i read that but it made a lot of sense)

That's a very wise saying and so very true, James. It is also a solution that may remove the person from their pain but leaves a terrible legacy of pain and wondering what they could have done for those that are left behind. I lost a friend to suicide when I was in my teens. The faces of his parents and his older brother will stay with me all my days. I often wonder had he known the pain he would leave them to carry, the greiving and the unanswered awful questions....if he would have still taken that way out.

that's how i got him to go to the hospital with me, i wasn't trying to put a guilt trip on him but i was so mad that he did that that i told him that was he was doing was one of the most selfish things and he wasn't even thinking about all the people that loved him like his parents and friends and how much that would devestate everyone. I'm just glad i found him in time and that he's going to get the treatment he needs

He's back at school, his parents came to talk to me and my friend that drove him to the hospital and they brought us cookies and a card lol...glad to have him back, he decided that even though he cares alot about this girl that he's never going to talk to her again, which i think is a good choice...and he has good friends behind him so i'm sure he'll do just fine. Thanks everyone for all your support

Glad to hear your friend is getting on with his life James. I hope tihs young man realizes what a good bunch of friends he has and that in life, is a great blessing in itself. :)

I just came across this thread. I'm SO glad to hear that your friend is back safe and sound...that can't be easy to deal with emotionally--for you or his parents! I applaud you for being a good friend and being level-headed in the face of crisis. He'll need your continuing support, and you seem like just the sort of upstanding guy to be there for him :hug:

thanks joanna and kim, yea his parents seemed to have taken it pretty well, or as level headed as you could've taken that situation from a parents standpoint, i know it must be hard. As for me idk what my life would've been like if that kid disappeared from it, he's a good guy it just sucks that he made such a stupid decision. but thank God all is well again

i know how he feels,i take anti-depressonts, my prayers are with him