Unsure about my G/F coming to my work

I think that I'd tell her about how the guys around your work talk about women--very candidly. She'll probably opt out of visiting an environment like that, anyway.

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Originally Posted by AzureN1ght

I think that I'd tell her about how the guys around your work talk about women--very candidly. She'll probably opt out of visiting an environment like that, anyway.

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i agree! if i were her i would change my mind about going. btw kudos for standing up for your lady and women every where. imo your coworkers have never been in a happy healthy relationship (judging by their outlook on women) DO NOT let them get to you and drag your relationship down! what ever you decide to do good luck to you and your lady.

I would definately be honest about how things with the guys at your work are with your girlfriend. I don't know how your girlfriend is, but if my husband worked at a place like that and told me about it, I would more than likely not go mostly for my sake and not wanting to be caught in a position like that, but also for his sake to keep him from having to deal with something rude being said all the time. I am sure that if you are honest, she would not take it in the wrong way, and may appreciate you more because of it. Do you get lunch breaks? Maybe see if she could meet you for lunch away from your work or meet up for dinner afterwards....

Good luck!!! :)

It sucks that your work environment is so immature that the idea of bringing a woman into it is enough to make your skin crawl. :(

I appreciate everyones input. Just sucks cause I would like to show her where I work but I'll just tell her whats up with the guys, and I'll tell her I don't want her to be disrespected by my co-workers. Being razzed if one thing. Being asked what goes on ect and seeing guys saying some VERY rude remarks is another.

Hm.. she should walk right in with her head high and you should introduce her to them personally as your girlfriend. :) See, it is simple for people to make fun of someone they've never met. But if they have put a name to a face..
It was funny; I ribbed on Mark alot because of one of his coworkers at the shop.. but once I met the guy, I found out that he is pretty cool and I don't make fun of him now because he is a real name and face in my head, not some guy who did this or that.
The guys at your work sound different than my mild ribbing though; they sound like some real cowards who probably had horrific relationships, probably through their own doing.
Hehe.. Mark and I were at our friend's veggie stand a few weeks ago. Guy we never met comes up to my friend.. Friend asks us "how's married life?" as we are newlyweds. Stranger spouts out something to the tune of, we are morons for getting married. So what does my awesome husband say? "Oh, sounds like someone here can't find a real woman!" Shut the idiot up really quick.

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Originally Posted by Ginevive

Hm.. she should walk right in with her head high and you should introduce her to them personally as your girlfriend. :) See, it is simple for people to make fun of someone they've never met. But if they have put a name to a face..
It was funny; I ribbed on Mark alot because of one of his coworkers at the shop.. but once I met the guy, I found out that he is pretty cool and I don't make fun of him now because he is a real name and face in my head, not some guy who did this or that.
The guys at your work sound different than my mild ribbing though; they sound like some real cowards who probably had horrific relationships, probably through their own doing.
Hehe.. Mark and I were at our friend's veggie stand a few weeks ago. Guy we never met comes up to my friend.. Friend asks us "how's married life?" as we are newlyweds. Stranger spouts out something to the tune of, we are morons for getting married. So what does my awesome husband say? "Oh, sounds like someone here can't find a real woman!" Shut the idiot up really quick.

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Yeah, all I hear from them is "All women are whores", "She's gonna hurt you cause thats women do" ect ... And of course the sexual nature comments and questions. And these I just get so annoyed with 'cause I really can't do anything about it. My boss' son wanted me to hook him up with my cousin and for a year all I heard was how he's gonna do her ect ... But I'll just tell her what's up. I'm pretty sure she wont wanna come in, and to be honest, It would send me into a fury to hear these comments.

Where I work, we have 30 guys in my department. No women at all. The things that are said daily would make HR cringe....BUT, when one of us brings wifes/girlfriends/family into work, the talk stops. We have respect for each other and for our significant others. Its almost like an unwritten rule or code, known by all guys...you have to demand the respect of your co-workers for your girlfriends sake.

I just decided no need to worry. I'll just keep my mouth closed if they make a remark and eventually they'll cool it 'cause I could be just worrying over nothing. They might not be as bad as I think they'll be.

I would definately visit if I were her. I would walk right in.. it is just how I am. I was never intimidated by Mark's macho crew of construction workers.. they are "the" definition of macho, in fact. If Mark was going into a house to talk about renovations and i was along, I would walk right in and even add to the conversation and I would look them in the eye, and make a smart comeback to anything they could verbally dish out; pretty soon we would be talking politics or religion and finding that we had some things in common. I could start talking handguns, or Jeeps, or even about the finer points of using the powder mix to make mud for drywall rather than buying the overpriced crap in the buckets.. If I had waited in the car, I would forever just be Mark's little girlfriend, and heck, if I were a male in their position I would have nothing to base any assumptions of his girl on other than seeing her glower from the car window! But then again I have a thick skin and tend to become one of the guys easily.. not many women are or want to be like that. When Mark's cousins and uncles stay over a few days for hunting time, I easily can mingle with them. Now if it were a group of his female relatives, or my own for that matter outside of my mom and sister.. I would be searching for thing to say or scaring them with talk of proper ATV riding form and how to gut a deer without rupturing the spleen!