Dance at school has "dress code"

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Originally Posted by nd179906

I would agree I also just read that it is a 5th thru 8th grade dance then those rules are just dumb.

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Bingo :D

when i was in middle school we had a dress code, but it wasnt strict like that. Basically they said, no gang stuff, guys keep their pants over their butts, girls dont have your boobs or butt sticking out. pretty much it.
I understand their concern, and unfortunatley, if they said, "please dress appropriatley" most kids would still come dressed in...non children (i'll leave it at that) ways. They have to just lay down those rules for the ones that dont get "dont look like a thug"

I think it's more to discourage the "dressing like hookers" part of middle school dances than anything else. I'll bet that if any of the less well off parents were to phone the principal with their dilemma (no nice dockers, etc) then a concession could be made for those kids. I'd call the school and ask about it before bringing it up with any other parents, I'm sure the principal would respect your thoughts on it!

But you're also maybe in a larger school... in my small school everyone knew everybody anyway.

Here in South Jersey a lot of our schools, includung my sons, have gone to a uniform for school days. They did this so that the kids would be on a more even playing field when it came to who's family has money and who's does not. We are in a low income area and this has worked really well. They don't have the problem of kids picking on each other because of what they are wearing and the parents like it too, they can buy the uniforms much cheaper than designer cloths or even low end Wal-Mart cloths. There are some basic guidelines and most kids stay within them. My wife and I volunteer a lot at the school and you can see it works well.



I could see why your school would atempt this for a dance. It would be nice to have our children brought up to respect one another and present themselves well to others (I know I am starting to sound a little like 'Leave it to Beaver' ish). What's wronge with what they are doing? If it is a cost issue, I am sure every kid has a nice outfit to wear to family events? If your daughter does not want to wear a dress, I am sure they will let her in with a nice pair of slacks and proper top. I would much rather see that than what a lot of these young girls wear these days. (the funny thing is, when I was younger I thought girls showed to much and I was supposedly in the 'in' crowd. I was teenager in the late 80's and early 90's) I also know, I don't want my children to go about the 'growing up' part of life as fast as I did.

Heh; we had to wear uniform every day. let some boys' hair grow beyond his collar, and he was given a note to take home.. public schoolkids should feel lucky that they even get to wear jeans to school! We had plaid skirts!

Actually Toledo has a uniform dress code for public schools Jen. Mikey just left the public school system this past week and his new private christian school also has a very similar dress code. They do allow Friday "dress down" (non-uniform) for which you contribute $1.00 for the privilege. Personally I love the uniform code and wish my older kids had gone to a school that had it. Much better when school is not about a fashion statement or whose parents can be talked into some ridiculously overpriced pair of shoes. I love the no arguing about what to wear to school too...makes my job as a parent and the morning rush that much easier.

Joe as far as the rules for the dance this is just my personal take on it as a parent so please see it that way. I see nothing wrong with the school who is hosting this dance having an expectation about how the kids should be dressed for it. There's no large cash outlay in that list of clothing, nothing odd or extreme in it. For me as well, this is a moral thing about not encouraging my kids to buck the rules. The school is hosting the dance, they have a rule about proper attire....if you want to go you'll dress accordingly, if you don't want to follow the rules...then simply do not attend.

Rules that are made just for the sake of rule making and are extreme or abusive are wrong. I've always supported my kids speaking out against those but on the flip side a rule that is reasonable is to be respected and followed with a good attitude. I'm a big believer in that sort of thing and those lessons start early in our home. Life is about a lot of rules really, sadly it seems kids lately seem to think they are exempt from most of them.

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Originally Posted by mousch

I think it's more to discourage the "dressing like hookers" part of middle school dances than anything else. I'll bet that if any of the less well off parents were to phone the principal with their dilemma (no nice dockers, etc) then a concession could be made for those kids. I'd call the school and ask about it before bringing it up with any other parents, I'm sure the principal would respect your thoughts on it!

But you're also maybe in a larger school... in my small school everyone knew everybody anyway.

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We live in a 5500 population village lol.We are to small to be concidered a city.Well it seems i do not even have to ask anything at the school because the school board is now involved.I guess alot of parents called in asking what was the deal here.They were surprised(school board) because they were unaware of these rules :eek: .This could get very interesting:P .

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Originally Posted by jbkd

Here in South Jersey a lot of our schools, includung my sons, have gone to a uniform for school days. They did this so that the kids would be on a more even playing field when it came to who's family has money and who's does not. We are in a low income area and this has worked really well. They don't have the problem of kids picking on each other because of what they are wearing and the parents like it too, they can buy the uniforms much cheaper than designer cloths or even low end Wal-Mart cloths. There are some basic guidelines and most kids stay within them. My wife and I volunteer a lot at the school and you can see it works well.



I could see why your school would atempt this for a dance. It would be nice to have our children brought up to respect one another and present themselves well to others (I know I am starting to sound a little like 'Leave it to Beaver' ish). What's wronge with what they are doing? If it is a cost issue, I am sure every kid has a nice outfit to wear to family events? If your daughter does not want to wear a dress, I am sure they will let her in with a nice pair of slacks and proper top. I would much rather see that than what a lot of these young girls wear these days. (the funny thing is, when I was younger I thought girls showed to much and I was supposedly in the 'in' crowd. I was teenager in the late 80's and early 90's) I also know, I don't want my children to go about the 'growing up' part of life as fast as I did.

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I understand you view.Now are you Wally or Ward lol.Please read my post ahead of this one for the update.

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

Actually Toledo has a uniform dress code for public schools Jen. Mikey just left the public school system this past week and his new private christian school also has a very similar dress code. They do allow Friday "dress down" (non-uniform) for which you contribute $1.00 for the privilege. Personally I love the uniform code and wish my older kids had gone to a school that had it. Much better when school is not about a fashion statement or whose parents can be talked into some ridiculously overpriced pair of shoes. I love the no arguing about what to wear to school too...makes my job as a parent and the morning rush that much easier.

Joe as far as the rules for the dance this is just my personal take on it as a parent so please see it that way. I see nothing wrong with the school who is hosting this dance having an expectation about how the kids should be dressed for it. There's no large cash outlay in that list of clothing, nothing odd or extreme in it. For me as well, this is a moral thing about not encouraging my kids to buck the rules. The school is hosting the dance, they have a rule about proper attire....if you want to go you'll dress accordingly, if you don't want to follow the rules...then simply do not attend.

Rules that are made just for the sake of rule making and are extreme or abusive are wrong. I've always supported my kids speaking out against those but on the flip side a rule that is reasonable is to be respected and followed with a good attitude. I'm a big believer in that sort of thing and those lessons start early in our home. Life is about a lot of rules really, sadly it seems kids lately seem to think they are exempt from most of them.

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Joanna,i have no problem with the kids(mine included) having a dress code but i think it should be for regular school hours also.We are not poor nor rich but my daughter has enough clothes though and they are all properly fitting her.She does not want to go now because a couple of her freinds will not be thier because of the "dress code".The kids are not in torn up clothes just most have just blue jeans and other not accepted clothes.Please see my update.

my old high school didnt have any dress codes(that i know of).the students just knew what to wear during school dances.like for prom i had to wear a tuxedo and so did all the other boys that went.the girls wore dresses ad things like that.