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it's those random acts of love and kindness which create memories of love for others! (and ourselves) https://ball-pythons.net/gallery/fil.../4/7/heart.gif

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Originally Posted by Sinsation

Aww that is a very sweet thing to do.

My husband and I have a journal and we each take turns to write a quick "love note" or what ever to eachother. It is so nice to have and one day our memories can be passed to our children.
And for my children I love to put a cute I love you type note in their backpack or lunch box here and there. They really seem to enjoy it.

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I like that idea alot. :D

as much as my parents get on my nerves and how they didnt let me keep tarantulas/snakes at first, i gotta admit at least they havent kicked me out of the house for begin 18 and for paying my college tuition.I havent really told them thank you or "i love you" lately but im thankful for having them with me.

What a beautiful post Mike. Your grandmother will treasure that card always I'm sure of it. Sometimes when you parent (or grandparent) a kid it's a lot of work and stress and you always wonder if you are doing it right (and unfortunately never know until it's basically too late). Getting this sort of loving feedback is a wonderful thing and a gesture from you that speaks volumes not only about you as a person but about this lovely woman who raised you. :)

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Originally Posted by Snakeman

as much as my parents get on my nerves and how they didnt let me keep tarantulas/snakes at first, i gotta admit at least they havent kicked me out of the house for begin 18 and for paying my college tuition.I havent really told them thank you or "i love you" lately but im thankful for having them with me.

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i might have to change that...my mom just left me home without taking me to school...on purpose!! and i have a test today for my intermediate algebra class.trust me when you take that class in college,it's no fun and now that i have to miss the test...well at least she cant blame me if i end up failing the class(and it's not the 1st time she leaves me).

grrrr...

mabye she is just trying to make you more indapendent.

yeah a little too independent.since i was a freshman in high school she's been making me more "independent".i've been telling her for a few years now to teach me how to drive so i dont have to deal with this but she hasnt exactly been teaching how to drive.

I used to hide the cheap valentine notes that they sell for kids to pass out at school in all my husband's lunches, his book he was reading. For 3 monthes or more during the Valentine season he would find them in craft projects. He printed little business cards that said "I love you" on them, and did the same back. That tiny little card is such a boost. I love to send a random card out ot various friends.
It's always wonderful to give one or get one. I miss being able to hide those little cheap cards in his lunch.
Wolfy

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

What a beautiful post Mike. Your grandmother will treasure that card always I'm sure of it. Sometimes when you parent (or grandparent) a kid it's a lot of work and stress and you always wonder if you are doing it right (and unfortunately never know until it's basically too late). Getting this sort of loving feedback is a wonderful thing and a gesture from you that speaks volumes not only about you as a person but about this lovely woman who raised you. :)

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Thankfully I'm a very emotionally expressive person. Never guess that with a name like Vomitore huh?! :D But I always go out of my way when it comes to telling people what I feel. About 2-3 years ago I lost my Aunt Michelle. Really put me through a loop when I lost her. Me and her were always close and always were excited to see her. For a long time she was sorta trapped from herself. She had finely sought help and made a total change about herself. I actually cried when she told me that she was being monitored on ritalin 'cause finely the person I knew she was, and was trapped in was finely able to come out. That was the best part since now everyone could love the person I knew she was all along.

I actually sent her a card not too long after she had herself put on medication. I told her how much I loved her and how proud I am of the mother she is, and what a wonderful daughter she has raised. Hell, I think I told her how much I appreciate the person she is, and how much I loved her everytime I saw her.

aww, nice to see that soft side ;)
It to am a Grandma and Grandpa's girl, they raised me from birth because my mother was to young and stupid to step up. Living with them and being close to my grandparents was the best blessing. I meet people all the time who arent close to there grandparents and it make me feel so sad for them.
I also still have my Great Grandmother...another amazing woman I am honored to be related to, I love getting together with all of them and laughing and hugging and just making memories, I try to get pictures of them and video them as much as possible because its those woman who kept me alive to be the mom and woman I am today. (my great grandmother also helped raise me, she would get off from work at her 2nd job and come right home to tend to me and give my grandparents a break...7 days a week she was there)
I also became a huge grandpa's girl, because I didnt have a father. Him and I were partners in crime and would go watch car races, hit the junk yards on the week ends and tinker on old cars in the barn. Sadly, on April 19th 2001 I lost him forever...he commited suicide...something you really dont see coming and cant possibly be ready for. I lost my best friend and father figure that day and have never been the same. If it wasnt for my Grandmother and Great Grandmother still being alive, I know 100% I would of also taken my life just to be with him. I moved from my husband and I's home back to Grandmas, this time it was my turn to care of her...it was nice to return the favor. We cried together and healed together, we still talk about him every chance we get...the tattoo on my right arm says "Forever in my heart Grandfather" in chiness. My grandmother and I went to get tattoos in memory of him together :) I tended to her until I felt she was ready to be alone and finally moved back in with my hubby, it was hard on him and I but I knew that my place was with her at that time. No one was worried about how my strong grandmother would handle it, they all kept asking me how I was doing, and if I would be okay.
I am sad that my daughter will never get to meet him and love him the way I did, he'll just be a picture to her and a story ever so often, but to actually know him and be in his life...well I'm the lucky one.
Ever since then, I make sure to write letters to those 2 woman and tuck them away some where, I love getting a phone call saying "I went to open my purse and found your note" my great grandmother actually puts them in frames :)
The 2nd hardest day was moving away from them, we now live 2 hours away..instead of 30 minutes...2 hours in a car with a toddler can seem like 30 hours so I try and go over every other month to see them. I have to say I miss home still, and when I do make it over I stay for atleast a week or 2.
My grandmother was rushed to the hospital a few weeks ago because she couldnt breath...it doesnt help that she is an 80 pound ball of fire who was pissed about paramedics coming to get her and she wasnt able to hit on them because she was out of breath lol. But I feared I would loose her, I couldnt go over because we had a bad storm and I was really sick and didnt want to make her worst...I cried when I got off the phone and realized...I'm not ready to loose her, I didnt realize I wasnt healed from my grandfathers death and really depend on her for every emotional thing. It snapped me into reality and made me realize I need to be around her more, take even more pictures, remember everything I can, and just love them for as long as I can.