so happy for you in your husband! i hope ill be as happy as you are!
09-06-2006, 02:28 PM
CTReptileRescue
Re: wow... 8 years!
Congratulations, It is so nice to hear of folks staying happily together. You always hear of the bad stuff in this world and it can be hard to see and hear the good. This is a great treat! Congratulations again!
Rusty
09-06-2006, 02:33 PM
recycling goddess
Re: wow... 8 years!
exactly, which is why i decided to share my happy news :) i thought we could all use some.
09-07-2006, 01:41 AM
MARCUS ANTONIUS
Re: wow... 8 years!
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Originally Posted by recycling goddess
handfasting is a pagan tradition. much like a marriage. your hands are tied together (hence the name for it) and an athame is put to your heart (blunt ceremonial knife) and you are asked to speak your vows... and the god-goddess is asked to plunge the knife deep into your heart if you are not telling the truth.
if you wish to only be engaged for a year and a day (to try out the marriage) the ropes are loose (and then you live together for a year and a day)... if you wish to be joined in marriage, then the knots are tight.
ours were tight :)
interestingly enough... for me the legal ceremony was HUGE and i thought it would mean little to me (as i, at that time was the pagan) - on our wedding night my hubby did his initiation into wicca (asking the god and goddess to be in his life kinda like a baptism only he was alone doing this). our legal marriage was performed on the third eclipse of a triple eclipse. then our handfasting was performed on the equinox - both very powerful positive days for our astrological signs (as everything was done to bring balance - my mother is a high priestess and gifted astrologer and numerologist - so she was of great assistance in choosing when to wed)
the handfasting was the big one for my hubby. so it was interesting to us how the opposite of what we expected happened LOL
at both unions we (and my two children) were the only ones there (other than two witnesses at the legal ceremony) - the kids performed vows with dave (my hubby) and took him as their father and he took them as his children. they were given wedding bands. for me... that was so beautiful. seeing their little faces (11 and 4) staring into his face and telling him they love him forever.
we work hard on our relationship and it's such an honour to share my life with him. neither of us is perfect... we both have flaws... we dont expect each other to be more than we are but we each strive to do more, better... and i think that's part of why our relationship works so well.
ahhhhh i love him, what more can i say :wuv:
Oh, ok... I thought that was what was going on but I wasn't sure I'd ever heard the name before. I guess I've seen it in a movie or something... It sounds like they were beautiful ceremonies though on both counts. Congrats again to you both and to your children for finding someone to care about them so much. I've personally had 2 stepfathers and I honestly didn't really like either and I don't think they liked me or my brother very much in return. But my stepmother, on the other hand, is like a 2nd mother to me and I hope if my mom ever gets married again that she is as lucky as you have been to find someone who not only loves her, but also her children and now grandchildren as well. I know it's the 3rd time or so, but congratulations again!!
09-07-2006, 01:46 AM
recycling goddess
Re: wow... 8 years!
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Originally Posted by MARCUS ANTONIUS
Oh, ok... I thought that was what was going on but I wasn't sure I'd ever heard the name before. I guess I've seen it in a movie or something... It sounds like they were beautiful ceremonies though on both counts. Congrats again to you both and to your children for finding someone to care about them so much. I've personally had 2 stepfathers and I honestly didn't really like either and I don't think they liked me or my brother very much in return. But my stepmother, on the other hand, is like a 2nd mother to me and I hope if my mom ever gets married again that she is as lucky as you have been to find someone who not only loves her, but also her children and now grandchildren as well. I know it's the 3rd time or so, but congratulations again!!
i agree. we are very blessed. my hubby loves all the kids equally, just as though they were all his own. although i must mention... if my kids didn't love him, i wouldn't be with him. my children were here first... and therefore their happiness was my number one focus. when he asked me to marry him... they were the ones who had the power to say yes or no and they knew that.
that's the reason they also had wedding rings... cause they were marrying him as well (in a sense).
it saddens me when i see people put their boyfriend or girlfriend ahead of their kids happiness... i could never do that.
