Any others who don't want to have kids?

I've had people ask me didn't I like kids, didn't I want them? (at age 22!!! For heavens sakes!!) I've also had people tell me I'm wasting my college education because I'm a stay at home mom. Basically it boils down to what you are comfortable with. I've always wanted the little boogers, but I waited until I was ready for them. You can't let other people dictate what you do and when. If that is what's right for you now, then you should go with it. :gj:

my husband and i think that we would like to have children at some point, at least 5 years or more down the road, but we have no desire to have children right now at all. no way, no how, we are NOT ready for kids. my sister-in-law is having a baby girl in september and one of my father-in-laws biggest concerns has become when my husband and i are going to have start having kids, because his grandkids "need to grow up together." (even though we live 6 hours apart, so it's not like they would be playing together on a daily basis or anything.) the choice to have children is a HUGE deal, not something that you should just do because that's what people do. i think it's awesome that you and your boyfriend recognize that it's something that just isn't right for you. :)

I love kids...enough to know that I don't want any of my own. My critters are my kids. Not to mention the big kid I live with (aka Kev) - that's enough for me right there, thank you very much! :D

K~

My wife doesn't want kids...but I think that "someday" I want a son or daughter to pass things on to and she (my wife) is agreable to that. I just turned 26, and we will celebrate our 4th anniversary this August. I look at this way: we still have a LOT of time think it over and really decide, more importantly prepare. Right now? no way. House isn't big enough, have to many bills, to many animals, to many "toys", to many "wants", etc. I also will admit that my wife would probably describe me in a similiar manor that Kevin was :) We don't get alot of pressure personally, there are enough other relatives in the family that have kids. My mom and dad where to young when they had me...I wasn't planned but I turned out ok...I think...

In my oppinion those people who are tying to pressure young couples about "building a family" when they may not be ready...should put some of that effort into educating even younger couples and school aged kids about the *dangers* of sex. There is nothing that makes me cringe more than hearing about 13 and 14 year old children...becoming pregnant. I respect those that actually put some thought into having children because there are way to many that simply don't. I think the 20ish + age is somewhat still a period of time when people think we should be having kids, I think we will all know when the time is right. If the choice is not to have kids, nothing wrong with that either.

here's a great article i published in my magazine:

http://www.timelessspirit.com/NOV04/charlene.shtml

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Originally Posted by Vomitore

I personally don't want kids of my own. However, if I meet a girl who has kids (90% of the time haha) I have no problem with them. I just have this weird thing about me. I know they say there's a joy of having kids, but to see my wife go through labor would kill me to see her in that much pain.

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It's a labor of LOVE. Some women have little to no pain giving birth while others are in excructiating pain the entire time.

Gin your decision is just that, YOURS to make.

I was raised and taught that it's an honor to be a mom, and that's why I'm here having this life experience. My family jumped me because we had been married over four years and didn't have kids yet. At that time, both of us were working, and going to school and didn't have ANY sort of medical benefits or insurance and would have been bankrupt w/the hospital bills.

D then got hired FT w/benefits. FD wasn't planned, but she's been a blessing. I WAS getting ready to leave the abusive marriage when I was made pregnant, but I wouldn't wish for Robin's NON-existance AT ALL!! I love her w/ALL MY HEART.

I wanted more, but D deliberately w/held......:blah blah: Now that I'm where I could have more, and still want another one or two, my body is saying "OUT OF BUSINESS" so I'm having to deal with that. BUT..........

If you and BF find the emotional satisfaction from your relationship and from caring for your animals, then there's NO REASON why U should have kids. It is a personal decision that you have to make and be willing to live with. Yes, at 25 you have time, but there may be circumstances that happen that prevent you from having them, if U changed your mind. You'd just have to be willing to deal w/those feelings then.

(Yeah, I know the last thought is sort of murky.) I guess it's just that waiting is cool too, but if U were to change your mind, time lost can't be regained and you'd have to deal w/regrets if you had them. (That one wasn't much better, either....Sorry!!! :oops: )

*WHEW* BOTTOM LINE: YOUR choice, YOU have to live with it.....if you're HAPPY, then it's cool! :cool:

RuLyn

and let's not forget just how overpopulated this planet already is... ;) so from the environmental stand... not having kids... "it's a good thing"

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and let's not forget just how overpopulated this planet already is... ;) so from the environmental stand... not having kids... "it's a good thing"

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Haha I agree. I hate trying to find a parking spot!

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Haha I agree. I hate trying to find a parking spot!

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Overpopulated AND the air stinks....ride a bicycle Mike...easy to park those! :P

I don't want kids, never wanted kids, and don't have kids. I marreid a guy who had 3 adult sons, so now I have 7 grandkids.
I still dislike children, and would prefer to never have any. I have my critters, and they are much better.
If you don't want kids, you shouldn't have them. End of story.
I got and get pressure on it, as my family is mostly catholic.
Wolfy