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I'm conflicted...

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  • 07-02-2018, 10:47 AM
    Aerries
    Re: I'm conflicted...
    My husband was actually TERRIFIED of snakes....all sizes, didn’t matter. It took him almost two years to finally let me get Ramsey and then shortly after Anubis (Boa) so here we are almost at two years later and just a few months ago he felt comfortable finally holding my biggest (Ramsey) now he is willing to hold Anubis at anytime (She was the first snakes he ever held at a whopping 175 grams) she’s now almost 500g and over 3ft. He knows how large she’s going to get but through the time and consistently handling her as she grows, it’s become easier as an adaptation to the realization of how big she’s going to get. It truly depends of the individual and their comfort level and confidence and willingness to adapt/acceptance imo.


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  • 07-02-2018, 10:51 AM
    Craiga 01453
    Re: I'm conflicted...
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    Originally Posted by Skyrivers View Post
    Instead of adding right now, why not work on increasing her experience with larger pythons. Babies to adults. Let her warm up to the idea. Just a suggestion. Great you two are doing well.

    I've considered that, but I'm thinking I can add soon while educating her moving forward. I'm "itching" for something new, but not "jonesing" yet, so I doubt anything will be happening real soon anyhow.
    Thanks!! :D
  • 07-02-2018, 10:58 AM
    Craiga 01453
    Re: I'm conflicted...
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Aerries View Post
    My husband was actually TERRIFIED of snakes....all sizes, didn’t matter. It took him almost two years to finally let me get Ramsey and then shortly after Anubis (Boa) so here we are almost at two years later and just a few months ago he felt comfortable finally holding my biggest (Ramsey) now he is willing to hold Anubis at anytime (She was the first snakes he ever held at a whopping 175 grams) she’s now almost 500g and over 3ft. He knows how large she’s going to get but through the time and consistently handling her as she grows, it’s become easier as an adaptation to the realization of how big she’s going to get. It truly depends of the individual and their comfort level and confidence and willingness to adapt/acceptance imo.


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    Thanks, man. When/if the time comes I'll definitely be starting with a juvenile so she can develop a trust while the snake grows. She's certainly showed willingness to adapt and accept, I just don't want to push too far. She's come a long way, and I'm happy she's put the majority of her fears behind her as well as grateful she's been willing to step outside her comfort zone to support me and my passion.
    I'm glad your hubby has come around too! It's always more fun when you can enjoy things together!!
  • 07-02-2018, 11:24 AM
    Gio
    It's been mentioned,

    I'll say it again if the carpet scene isn't good for you at the moment. Try an island boa constrictor.

    You'll get a nice handling snake, something that is semi arboreal, hardy, typically always ready for food, and a smaller size. You are maybe looking at 5.5 feet for a male depending on the species/subspecies.

    Boas move nice and slow usually and seem to tolerate handling well, so well for some that you'd swear they enjoy it.

    These boas will have far less girth than the STP and will be equal or a little less in length.

    Another option,,,, Green Tree Python. Probably not a handling dream, but smaller than the carpets and excellent for display purposes.

    My wife isn't at all into the hobby, but she does glance at the cages now and then and likes the way the room is set up.

    It's hard to say as I don't have a feel for the vibe you two have. If you get a baby snake, they all start off small, and boas should be grown slowly so you won't be looking at anything big 2 years form now.

    Personally,,, and this is just my opinion; If you can't get the snake you think you'll really dig, don't get one with the same behaviors of the ones you own now just to have another. Wait it out and get the one you want.

    Boa constrictor heads look similar to STP heads so maybe you have a chance LOL!
  • 07-02-2018, 11:55 AM
    asplundii
    If it is just about the head/body discontinuity that upsets her then might I suggest thinking outside the box and looking at something like a woma python or a blackhead python? They are basically built like oversized king snakes.

    Or, if you are okay with something smaller, you have the option of rosy boas or sand boas or anything in the Antaresia genus
  • 07-02-2018, 11:55 AM
    bcr229
    I would also look at sand boas and Savu pythons. Both are thin-bodied snakes that stay fairly small, and they are easy to keep.
  • 07-02-2018, 12:04 PM
    Craiga 01453
    Re: I'm conflicted...
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by asplundii View Post
    If it is just about the head/body discontinuity that upsets her then might I suggest thinking outside the box and looking at something like a woma python or a blackhead python? They are basically built like oversized king snakes.

    Or, if you are okay with something smaller, you have the option of rosy boas or sand boas or anything in the Antaresia genus

    Thanks for the reply. Womas and blackheads aren't my personal flavor, nor are rosy or sand boas. I appreciate the time and thought though. Thank you
  • 07-02-2018, 12:04 PM
    JodanOrNoDan
    Craig, just keep your lady happy. I drive mine nuts and I am shown a lot of patience. I have a snake habit, guitar habit, motorcycle habit, sword habit.. I have issues. Did you know guitars can actually reproduce on their own? At any rate, I know when I have pushed it too far. If I get one more guitar I'm going to end up living under a bridge somewhere. I used to raise tarantulas as well, but I gave that up because I was the only one that got any enjoyment out of them.
  • 07-02-2018, 12:08 PM
    Craiga 01453
    Re: I'm conflicted...
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by bcr229 View Post
    I would also look at sand boas and Savu pythons. Both are thin-bodied snakes that stay fairly small, and they are easy to keep.

    Thanks! Sand boas aren't for me, but I hadn't considered a Savu. I've only heard of them mentioned a few times in passing, so know next to nothing about them.
    Now I have something new to learn about :D
    Thanks!
  • 07-02-2018, 01:50 PM
    dakski
    Re: I'm conflicted...
    First, as you've said before; Keep your lady happy and be respectful! I know I don't need to tell you that twice.

    Secondly, if she doesn't like Boas, that's fine, it's her prerogative. However, keep in mind both Male BCI's and Dwarf species, do stay much smaller than Female BCI's or BCC's.

    They also tend to be very predictable and move deliberately and fairly slowly. They can have a wicked strong feeding response, but otherwise, are really docile. They also start out pretty small and you and she can grow with he/she.

    Katie loves Behira now (she loves her personality and inquisitive nature), and isn't too worried about when she's 6-7FT and 15 pounds or so! She's spent the better part of year learning her and watching her grow and knows her now. It would have been another story if I brought home a 7FT female!

    Anyway, just my two cents. I love Boa's, but also think #1 is the most important thing. Do the right thing by your girl.

    Good luck brother and keep us in the loop.
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