Stressed while handling?

For starters, just keep your handling sessions short and do everything you can think of to make them as un-stressful as possible. Keep the lights dim, and don't try to restrict the snake's movements too much. If possible, the evening when she's already awake might be better than during the day when you have to wake her up. Avoid sudden movements or things that make her flinch, like waving your arm above her head. Basically, try to keep her from associating being handled with being scared.

I have 2 bp's and both act completely different when handled. My boy at 6 mos would just sit in my hands and be really relaxed. now at 18 mos he will just lye in your arms completely relaxed, to the point that his coils just flop over your arms, and he loves exploring when he's drapped around your sholders. Now my girl is totally different, she doesn't strike, but she balls up and seems really scared. They did not come from the same breeder, the boy came from a very small breeder, and he handles all his babies, and the girl came from a large commercial breeder, and was never held except for cleaning. I think this may make a big differance. She will need more work and time but i think she will not feel so threatand when handled.