Wife dilemma...

While I do operate under the principle of "ask for forgiveness not permission". I'd say in the CL case, pass. Save that space, time, money for a snake that is more along with whatever goals you may have, whether that be simply looks for a pet or morphs for breeding. I avoid CL purchases because generally they're from people who aren't very knowledgable and often have mites, RI, or worse.

Happy wife happy life.

Happy wife happy life.

consider this....I'm a woman btw.

if hubby blatantly broke his word to me about a hobby.... What does that mean to me? I'm less important than a snake. He doesn't care.

Women dont think like men. We have this super power to take things completely in the worst way possible even when men didn't mean it that way.

Plus, remember all those hormones raging through her right now. How far along is she? Those hormones have a cumulative affect. Is it really worth it? How miserable will life get if she really gets worked up?

"Fine. Do whatever you want I don't care."..... NEVER MEANS YES!! It means mission abort.


I hope this helps!

Question: Where are you going to quarantine this "free" animal?

BTW I have 23+ years of "Yes Dear"

Do you really want my opinion on how you should conduct yourself in matters involving your marriage? Really?

This is not a question about a snake. It is a question about the value of "Your Word" and where you place your priorities. You may want to take a step back and reassess both. Oh, and if you think you are "rolling over", then you may also want to look up a few definitions such as agreement and compromise.

I agree this is not a snake question. I wonder why you got married in the first place if you are asking questions like this. I am a newlywed myself and wife is pregnant with twins currently. It is pretty much understood what is acceptable and what is not between us. Going behind her back is not and causes more issues then that's on the surface at the time, I wouldn't expect a long marriage doing things like that.

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Originally Posted by Jaust

Long post so sorry in advance...
I am newlywed and have a snake rack (6*41qt) and the means to buy food/vet bills/misc. To acquire this rack I had to make a deal with my wife that I wouldn't purchase any more snakes until our baby is here. So that's the back story you need.
I was on KSL (essentially craigslist) and there is someone who needs to get rid of his snake ASAP like tomorrow sort of thing. His ad says that if you pick the snake up, he's yours. SO with a cost of 0$ I asked my wife if this would be okay, she got insanely upset and said no.
My question to you guys is what would you do? Would you roll over and say okay, or would you put up an argument. If you would argue, what would you say?

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Im not married to my boyfriend of 7yrs nor are we expecting a child. But I can tell you first hand that snakes have be a argument in our house. My boyfriend supports my passion and is okay with it, however he believes there's a limit to how many snakes we should have. We have 9 and we breed feeders. I fit the bill for it all because it's my hobby. He doesn't complain about the snakes or tell me I'm a crazy snake lady, however with this breeding season I've been so busy and it does take its toll. I work 12 hr. days and spend hours doing my snake thing. He doesn't complain and listens to me ramble on and on about breeding and new morphs I want. But recently i had a similar issue. I found a person giving away snakes and i told my boyfriend i wanted them, and he seemed upset. And that in return upset me. I was pissed off and told him I pay for the cost and care of my snakes so I didn't see what his problem was. Then the next day at work I started adding hours I spend on snakes and work in my head and realized why he was upset. I barely had enough hours in the day for my work and hobby and he got what was left. 😞 It actually broke my heart to think he's waited and supported me and I just wanted to invest more time into snakes. So we agreed on a limit and I will keep my word because even though I love snakes I love him more. You have to count the cost. Is another snake worth seeing your wife get upset and feel betrayed? Is another snake taking up some of your time worth your wife losing some of it? And free snakes are usually free for a reason.

Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. You should honor your agreement with your wife. The respect you earn from her is worth more than any snake. What type of ball pythons are you looking for. Depending on what you want. I may be able to help you, just send me a pm and we can discuss the details

Don't do it, unless you want a divorce. I speak from experience, my ex wife made me sign an agreement not to buy anymore snakes. Notice I said ex wife. Lol not the only reason, but it didn't help matters.


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Bro, get the snake...