Ex wife not wanting me to see my son because of her fear of snakes

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Originally Posted by 4theSNAKElady

Does that mean youre never going to get married, Mike? :p

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Spot on, miss crystal! :gj:

My son is 5years old and the other reason she says he doesn't want to come to my house is because he has nightmares about them. And I don't want to offend anyone in this forum when I say she is putting him in way more harm than I am by making him breath second handed smoke from her cigarettes and I have tried to tell her the most dangerous thing in this world is one thing that we all take for granted "driving" kills more people in one day than any snake in any of our lifetimes venomous or constrictor.
And some of y'all may be right I will have to get rid of the Burmese or at least relocate him to a different place till he is more comfortable around it. A lawyer that is going to represent me hates them to but asked me if any of them had human fatalities and he only ones in 23 years is Burmese, boa constrictors, rock pythons, and relics of the constrictor family



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Originally Posted by bcr229

1) If your son really is scared then it would be evident in his reaction to the snakes. Most likely you'd have to drag him kicking and screaming over to them. If he's showing them off to his friends and wanting you to take the snakes to school, he's not scared.
2) Your ex wife does not get to ignore a court order and deny you visitation time with your son just because she is scared of snakes. Make it very clear that while you are sensitive to her concerns and your son will be supervised at all times, if she violates the order you do have the option of filing for contempt.

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^^ I second that.
Also I agree with the suggestion to sit your son in the room with both of you and ask.. Either he's lying to mom to appease her, which I kind of doubt, or she's making stuff up to be a royal B. It sounds like he enjoys the snakes... and if he says so in front of the two of you.. what's she gonna do, deny it?

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Originally Posted by DestinyLynette

and if he says so in front of the two of you.. what's she gonna do, deny it?

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Yes... And say he's just a kid so he doesn't know what he's talking about and blah blah blah lie lie lie.

People are wackjobs when it comes to divorces. I say "people" so as not to discriminate between men and women. In this case the ex sounds psycho but guys can be just as big of jerks.

I think in the state of tn she can deny me if she feels that he is harms way and I have to let a court decide that he's safe


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Its so messed up how our laws automatically dictate "oh the kid should always stay with the mom firstly". Second hand smoke is only a million times more dangerous than a ball python. It's disgusting.

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

Yes... And say he's just a kid so he doesn't know what he's talking about and blah blah blah lie lie lie.

People are wackjobs when it comes to divorces. I say "people" so as not to discriminate between men and women. In this case the ex sounds psycho but guys can be just as big of jerks.

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That's a weak defense at best though. "No, no, he's lying to appease you... see.. he's hiding terror as he's cuddling that snake and going out of his way to have you show them off"
Lol. People can be so ridiculous.

And ditto with your other statement about it being stupid to automatically say the moms should always have the kids. I know a guy whose wife always pawns the kids off with people while she goes off and does stuff but throws a fit about them staying with him.. Sad

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Originally Posted by DestinyLynette

That's a weak defense at best though. "No, no, he's lying to appease you... see.. he's hiding terror as he's cuddling that snake and going out of his way to have you show them off"
Lol. People can be so ridiculous.

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A weak defense is still a defense, and that's all she needs. Checkout the '06 colts. They still won the super bowl and their D sucked. They won bc they had a good offense. The offense in this case will be his ex's lawyer who gets off on sucking as much money as possible out of him and pumping in as much unhappiness as she possibly can cause him. This process will be dragged out for as long as possible to maximize her own profits.

Go over your decree and see exactly what it says. If it doesn't say she can do something, like keep your kid from you because she says he says something, she probably can't. Point that out to her. Nicely or there will probably be a fight.

If the kid is 5, don't make him decide in front of you guys whether or not he likes snakes. It's not something his little mind can really understand. Take him out of the equation completely. You're his parents, Parent.

Keep your cool when she does not. Right or wrong, it makes you look like the better parent. Arm yourself with knowledge. Both of your reptiles and their care, and the crap she's going to throw at you that she learns from peta and hsus and geniuses like melissa craplan. Be prepared to logically, correctly, and calmly refute her supposed facts.

Document by video and in writing anything you can. Show the boy with the snakes, but I would avoid shots with snakes around the boys neck. We know it's safe, but it looks really bad to those who don't know any better.

Be better prepared than she is if you need to back up what you say. Stay calm and keep your kid out of it.

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Originally Posted by wilomn

Be better prepared than she is if you need to back up what you say. Stay calm and keep your kid out of it.

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He can try until he's blue in the face to keep it civil and logical. If she wants to make it difficult, she'll be able to with the help of her lawyer. They'll side with the mom because society dictates that it's the right thing to do in this situation.