Just an update. All three of my bp's ate! My Male spider ate last Thursday. I went and got smaller rats for the my female butter and female pastel. They didn't eat but looked like they wanted to. Tonight I figured I would give them a shot even though it hasn't been a week since the last attempt. They took the rats after five minutes. I think extra time and smaller rats was what was needed. Hopefully everything goes smooth next week but at least they all have a half decent meal in them.
Thanks for the help and reassurence everyone.