My girlfriend went through the same thing! She was totally against my getting a snake, and gave me the silent treatment... when I first got Bongo, she wouldn't go anywhere near my room (not good for the love life!) and it took her a good two months before she would even pet him. One time he was about to put down a big F/T mouse and she was sitting near the cage cheering him on, yes we are both odd people, and he got confused and struck at the glass... she ran out screaming and it was back to ground zero. Six months later, of course, it went from being "that thing" to "the snake" to "Bongo" to "our snake" :?
I guess it goes to show that almost anyone can warm up to a snake after time and education. Oh man, this is a riot, she used to think that snakes would poison your food, like seriously sneak into the kitchen and inject a cookie or something. I couldn't believe that one! I'm sure your wife will totally warm up to your BP after time :)