Need some mental help.

I just received a message from the guy, "I have been busy sorry I work tonight if u feel like swinging by it's in olney the harris teeter. If not maybe I can meet up with you this week."
I responded, "I'm gonna be busy with work as well, and I don't know when I'll be free again, can you send me your address so I can at least drop off your shorts?"

I would think that would solve the problem quite nicely, I'll be able to return what I borrowed, and I won't have to see the guy again and face a potentially awkward situation (if he actually did take my friendliness as "flirting"). I don't think any rules of etiquette are broken, and I was civil instead of going the rude way and saying "I never want to see your face again". Although if he persists in more than just getting his clothes back I have NO problem telling him to stay the H-E-Double hockey sticks away from me and to not talk to me again.

Maybe a little ocd about contamination. :F Otherwise its kind of girl code not to leave your friends especially if y'all rode together. You didn't do anything wrong just a weird incident that looks bad unexplained.

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I seem to be the only one freaking out over this whole thing. I mean my boyfriend didn't even think it's a huge deal. I just dunno why I feel like it is. :/ Being a girl is stupid. haha

And honestly, who cares if he did take it as flirting? I know I didn't mean it that way and if he chose to take it that way after me telling him I had a boyfriend then that's his problem, right?

Nothing about his text sounds like he's hitting on you, and there's no need to feel you need to be aloof with him. The fella just wants his shorts back - nothing more. I think you're over-analyzing things, otherwise it starts to look like a case of "thou doth protest too much" for such an innocuous situation.

I know I've made enough mistakes in life to think about, I don't need to dwell on things I didn't do. You didn't do anything wrong, cut yourself some slack and stop worrying.

you did nothing wrong dont sweat it

Don't worry about it. You were honest with everyone around you, and it doesn't seem like this guy is trying to chase any tail from ya. Keep looking gorgeous and talking about snakes :gj:

I think what's really getting to me is that back when my boyfriend and I first started dating (like in the first month) I DID cheat on him. And I've never fully forgiven myself. And I keep thinking (although I KNOW we didn't have sex, there's just no way I had enough drinks to not remember if that had happened) that what if he had kissed me and I don't remember? What if I don't remember the night like I think I do? The more I think, the worse it gets and the more I doubt my memory. And then I go into crazy scenarios, like what if the guy ends up making up something, and because of my past history no one believes me? I was going to return the shorts today since the guy lives by where I work, so I asked a girl that worked at my job if I could use her smartphone to look up directions. This kid (who is my roommates ex) overheard me talking about it and he starts going like "ooh, this your sauce on the side? Have another guy on the side? Get some, get some!!" and it really upset me. Now I'm afraid he's gonna make up a story (because he's one of those people who love to assume and start drama) and starts rumors? Or texts my boyfriend? (I ended up not returning them because I tried to follow the directions but couldn't find a road and got tired of driving back and forth for forever in a hot car. I figured I'll wait until tomorrow when my roommate's with me cause she knows the area) Or what if my self-doubt is actually a sign of me not wanting to be with my boyfriend? And could I be projecting the past on what's happened and that's why I feel this way?

Maybe this is a sign of me needing psychiatric help? I feel like this isn't normal. I totally understand the "methinks the lady doth protest too much, methinks" but for some reason I am unable to let go of this feeling of uneasiness no matter what I do or what people tell me.

Maybe it is some kind of unconscious sign that you want to be single? Who knows.

But, you have to weigh the pros and cons, and then decide what is best for you. Either way, ruminating on things will eventually wear you down and lead to bigger issues.

xFenrir dont take this the wrong way but imo you honestly sound like youre blowing this WAYYY out of proportion and overanalyzing it way too much lol. Ive been in similar situations, not exactly the same but sorta similar, and it sounds like he and your bf are both handling it how any normal guy would. His texts sounds completely typical for a guy who JUST wants his shorts back. Nothing more at all. Your bf sounds like hes handling it as any guy would. You didnt lie to him and told him what honestly happened and it didnt even seem to phase him. If i was him or the guy i would be acting the same way. Im not sure if youve been talking with your bf about all this as much as youve been on here but if you have then he may have a right to kinda be suspicious if youre STILL feeling guilty over it then it does look kinda sketchy. Showing so much guilt over something that never happened could lead him to believe that you really did do something. So turn down the crazy just a bit haha! In the future i suggest using the buddy system and not seperating from your gf. If this guy was a real jerk he could have seriously taken advantage of you in that situation. Ive seen it happen before. Also dont drink so much that blackout, that never ends well and results in situations like this. EVERYONE feels a little bit of what youre feeling when they have a morning like the movie The Hangover hahaha!

By all of this in no way am i making fun of you or the feelings youre getting. Im just trying to lighten the mood and get you to realize that you did nothing wrong and its gunna be all good! I dont think you need to see a shrink at all, youre creating these emotions of guilt on your own in your head. Only you can realize it and overcome them. I believe in you grasshopper! :gj: