Divorce Survival?

Sorry to hear about this. I am not and never will divorce but I know people who have. I'll do what I did them: I'll pray for you and him and hope God guides you down the appropriate path.

God bless.

I have not been in your shoes, so I don't have any advice to offer. I will say though, that if you need a shoulder, we will all be here for you. Sorry for your tough time. May you find happiness and contentment in the days to come.

I was married for 8 years when my ex-wife threatened to take my kids and go back to live around her parents. Well, I was in the Army and couldn't imagine us staying married but, her living in Washington while I was in New York. So, I told her to go! But, we would be getting divorced! She said no, we can stay married I just don't want to live thousands of miles from my family. I thought her, our kids and me was OUR FAMILY! But, guess not! I filed for divorce and moved out! Then deployed to Iraq and came home and she was still in New York! I have no idea why! Guess she thought I'd change my mind. I didn't think I'd ever find someone else either! Actually didn't even want too! I wanted to just do what I wanted! Well, I met my current wife! Not really sure if this will help! But, just know you can find happiness again! I'll be married for 3 years in May! Just hoping to give you some HOPE! You'll be ok! Keep your head up!

Thanks everyone for the kind words.

My family and friends have also been encouraging me to keep a few snakes, as they all know how important they are to me.

I think I will also try to spend some time outdoors. It can be very calming to spend time out in nature.

Luckily we do not have any kids. We were getting close to the point of starting a family, so I guess we are lucky that never happened.

It feels strange though, going from planning to be a mother to suddenly being single without kids. I feel kind of disappointed, since I was really looking forward to finally having children and having a family to take care of.

Your time will come, with the right person. Don't give up hope on that. They say when one door closes, another opens. I am a firm believer in things happen for a reason. Several years ago I lost my favorite cat to cancer, at a very young age. It was the first death my daughter had to deal with. Hind sight, I believe it was preparing her for the death of her grandfather to cancer a year later. She know her papa and kitty are up there together. Stay strong.

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Originally Posted by meowmeowkazoo

Thanks everyone for the kind words.
It feels strange though, going from planning to be a mother to suddenly being single without kids. I feel kind of disappointed, since I was really looking forward to finally having children and having a family to take care of.

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Mine was the same way and it did feel very disappointing until I realized that families come in many forms. I had my sister to take care of (bi-polar) and my furry/scaly kids who needed me. Now, 6 years later, I'm happily married and though I don't have human kids yet, that will happen in good time. Sometimes it's hard to see what you do have when it feels like your world is collapsing in around you but like you mentioned, going outside and into nature can help along with just taking the time to think about the good things in your life.

The only suggestion I have is get a job asap.

You need to do it for yourself, and it'll be good to get in a new routine to give yourself at least a little bit of a reason to be productive on any given day.

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I convinced my husband to try marriage counseling before we call it quits. I don't think I would ever be able to let go if I didn't know we had tried everything possible. I am still going to sell most of my snakes (both to save up money in case of divorce and because they're an issue while living in an apartment), but I am going to keep my favorites.

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Originally Posted by meowmeowkazoo

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I convinced my husband to try marriage counseling before we call it quits. I don't think I would ever be able to let go if I didn't know we had tried everything possible. I am still going to sell most of my snakes (both to save up money in case of divorce and because they're an issue while living in an apartment), but I am going to keep my favorites.

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Good to hear, do everything you can or else you will always wonder what if.