Need some advice...

I'd say something too... like kitedemon said, give the benefit of the doubt, but ask . . . Tell her you were dissapointed you didn't get an invite and want to make sure there isn't something wrong or what not.

Good luck girl.
Hope things are okay.

Could it of been Funds lacking on ones end...

My first thought when I read your post was that this sounds like a case of growing apart. It could be that this is a friendship that didn't stand the test of time and in your case distance. You could ask her about what happened, but to be honest, if she wanted you there she would have made an effort. If the invite got "lost," she could have contacted you and been like "what's up? You coming?" I could be wrong and there could be a valid excuse, but I just don't have a good feeling about this. If you decide you ask her, don't make it a big thing. I have a hunch you'll simply get a polite excuse. Probably a better choice would be to simply ask "how was the wedding?" What she says or doesn't say will probably answer your questions. I'm sorry this happened :(

Thanks for all the replies. I probably will try talking to her when I figure out what I'm going to say. As far of lacks of funds, I don't see how it would have cost much more for her to invite me, since it was a pretty big wedding of about 75-100 guests judging by the pictures. There were 8 bridesmaids and 9 groomsmen...and I'm sure not lacking funds. And we live 25 minutes away from each other, max.

As a guy, I'd tell you to put it behind you... But most of us don't understand these things so well :P




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Good luck! I can't think of any explanation. I don't really know what I'd say to someone after that either. Not an easy thing, but it's best to get the situation in the clear rather than wait and mention it years from now or the next time you see her. If it was important to you it is best that she knows that, and how you feel about not being invited

Not to be too much of a downer, but this is why we (my wife and I) don't make any friends. They will just let you down and/or use you. Even family is just a let down.

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Originally Posted by cecilbturtle

If its important to you then say something. Life is too short to wonder about such things. Since you guys are or were so close she will at the very least understand why you are hurt and needed to ask. This way you'll get an explanation. Good or bad at least you won't have to wonder anymore.

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I started typing a response and then read this. That's what I was going to say...and I'm pretty sure that if it bothers you enough that you feel you need to post this thread than it probably bothers you enough to say something. I hope that you can work things out. It hurts to grow apart from friends.

Also her answer will give you a better idea of if there's the possibility of a continued relationship.

Well i say let it slide. but instead try to talk with her and reconnect. its hard to always understand the choices of others especially when you arent in contact with them for many years. As you know I live 300+ miles from everything I have ever known in my life and I too feel as though i have become very disconnected from my friends and even my family; however if you were able to be good close friends before and you want that back just try having a conversation and/or building it back up. I can relate to the situation and I have rebuilt friendships that were once lost.

Losing a good friendship to the point it breaks down like this is a result of both parties involved. My best advice is not to place blame nor "call the person out" but try starting over. at this point it is water under the bridge and the choices that have been made can never be changed.