horrible.....

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Originally Posted by python_addict

"its me or a few of your snakes"....

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Yuck. I'd kick that guy to the curb so fast. Does he spend a lot of time doing anything? What are his hobbies? Tell him to get rid of his valuable things or you're leaving.

maybe but Im gonna stick around till it does get to that breaking point which may be close anyway Im gonna try to hang on to him for a bit longer his jealousy is the only thing wrong with him

I guess you should know better than us since you see both sides of the spectrum. Just remember to do what makes you happy, whether it be boyfriend, bumblebee or both. You shouldn't have to sacrifice something you love as long as its not causing you or anyone else harm.

maybe hes been watching too nuch animal hoarding lately. peace.

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Darlin' from what you've written, he's got more than just jealousy issues; and you seem to make excuses for him. As Rich stated before, you're still young. There is a great big world out there, just waiting for you, DON"T settle.

Jealousy is all....

Jealousy is enough.

New good is harder to deal with than old bad.

Were my daughter to lay this situation out I'd tell her the same. He's not being fair, he is being greedy and he's most assuredly taking advantage of you.

Being alone may be scary but look at the relationships in your family. How many started out with "the only thing wrong" with him lines.

It's not a little thing. It's not a little thing that does grow into a large mean thing.

Anyway, good luck. But before you go, for surely you're spending too much time online and that makes him jealous too, stop and think about what you'll do when he gives you the next ultimatum. It's coming.

Most assuredly.

jealous of a few snakes? Dang what does he do when another dude checks you out. Did you have alot of snakes before you met him? If you did he knew what he was getting his self into.

Oh girlfriend... Why stick around until it gets to that breaking point? Dump his jealous butt and get yourself a nice new guy who will support your hobby and maybe even BUY you a snake!

Here's a long story I am going to attempt to make short.

I was 16 and going to prom with my b/f at the time. He (country boy) brought a baby bunny that was sick with him to pick me up. Needless to say I was tending the bunny most of the car ride and night. After prom it slept on my chest the whole night and I didn't get any sleep. It died the next day.

I find out that he was JEALOUS over that baby bunny! I kicked him to the curb so fast, I didn't care if he did just take me to prom or given me a (what I now realize) promise ring months earlier.

MY animals are all MY babies, if you can't deal, then hit the road!

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so this morning he said "its me or a few of your snakes"

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That would be when I say it's the snakes, not because I value my animals more than I value my relationships however being together is not about silly ultimatum it's about compromises.

If HE tell you what you can have or do now what make you think it will stop to snakes, ask yourself that question.

He is basically threatening to leave you over snakes :rolleyes:

I can tell you I am married to someone who does not like snakes well at list didn't when I brought up the idea of getting 1 (at the time it was one), we had already been married for several years and we simply talked about it, he was not excited about it but as long as he had nothing to do with it, he had no issue with it either. (Of course now I have 60 something :rolleyes:)

Bottom line if it came down to it I would give up my animals for him however NEVER because of a threat.

Relationships are just not about threat they are about compromises, communication and supporting each other passion even if it is not yours.

As others have said, you shouldn't let his jealousy stand in the way of something you enjoy. I was the same way when I first got into snakes. My husband grew tired of me always talking about them and always wanting to spend time with the snakes. Eventually I realized that the snakes were my hobby, not his.

Instead of kicking your guy to the curb or forcing yourself to get rid of something you love, why not take a different road first. Sit down with him and tell him "Honey, I realize I spend a lot of my time with this hobby. I know this isn't something your interested in" And tell him you'll spend more time with him. Don't talk about the snakes as much. In a nutshell, keep your hobby to yourself and find other people to talk about snakes with.

I had to do the same thing. My husband wasn't telling me to get rid of the snakes, but only because he knew I loved them so much. And he didn't want to come between me and something I'm passionate about. That is the difference here. Your guy is saying "Its me or them" If he's not willing to compromise (and if your not willing as well), then yes, kick him to the curb. If he's not willing to stay with you because you want to keep doing something you love, then he's not worth your time.