Ok, I legit just HAVE to rant

I'm glad my sister found the right path too!! I hope your sister grows out of this stage too!! At the end of the day, we can't live their lives for them, all we really can do is try offer guidance, but you can also only do so much, and really, you can't sacrifice your own life if people don't want help!

All you can really do is be there if she decides to come to you for help, and if she does, you take that chance and get her right, that's what I did, and that's all you can do!

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Originally Posted by Jared2608

I'm glad my sister found the right path too!! I hope your sister grows out of this stage too!! At the end of the day, we can't live their lives for them, all we really can do is try offer guidance, but you can also only do so much, and really, you can't sacrifice your own life if people don't want help!

All you can really do is be there if she decides to come to you for help, and if she does, you take that chance and get her right, that's what I did, and that's all you can do!

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Exactly!!!

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Originally Posted by JamieH

Sorry to hear you still get treated like that :( As you know now, I know how you feel and it sucks

and thank you! Im hoping so, seeing as one day I want to have 3 kids :oops:

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Those kinds of thoughts got me through the hardest of times - that one day, I would create a beautiful family that is open and loving.

Now, I'm not so sure that I want kids, especially if I end up with the man that I am with right now. If I do end up with him, kids or not, we will be a perfect family anyways!

It just looks like your younger sister is going to have to find her way. She probably isn't open to the thought of going to counselors.

If you're feeling down about this sometimes (I can't remember your original post to be honest with you), you could also just see a counselor to get these things out in the open with someone.
I saw a counselor when I started University and it was one of the best things I have ever done for myself!
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UPDATE:

Shes home.

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Originally Posted by CatandDiallo

Those kinds of thoughts got me through the hardest of times - that one day, I would create a beautiful family that is open and loving.

Now, I'm not so sure that I want kids, especially if I end up with the man that I am with right now. If I do end up with him, kids or not, we will be a perfect family anyways!

It just looks like your younger sister is going to have to find her way. She probably isn't open to the thought of going to counselors.

If you're feeling down about this sometimes (I can't remember your original post to be honest with you), you could also just see a counselor to get these things out in the open with someone.
I saw a counselor when I started University and it was one of the best things I have ever done for myself!
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Ive considered a counsler ( not only for things like this, for my past in general) but ultimatly decided against it because I have a hard enough time opening up to the man Im going to marry about some thing, let alone a stranger.

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Ive considered a counsler ( not only for things like this, for my past in general) but ultimatly decided against it because I have a hard enough time opening up to the man Im going to marry about some thing, let alone a stranger.

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I know this response is a bit late, and it's good to hear your sister is home, but If I might say something? I too have a "cancerous" family- that is a great way to put it. And Although I always did my best I ended up being kicked out repeatedly after my 16th birthday and had 2 years where I was hoping from house to house. I know you said you don't want to see a consellor, but like yourself I am very very closed even with my live-in boyfriend of 5 years. But I saw a consellor and it has helped a ton! It also wouldn't be a bad idea to try and form a relationship with your sister if not witht he rest of your family. I am still trying to maintain at least a civil relationship with my family when I have to see them but have made it my priority to be in my siblings lives and I have definately prospered because of it. You obviously know your own family better than anyone else on here. But you do only have 1 family, make the most of it. I'm sure you could help your sister tons as it seems like you are a good person just trying to remove yourself from a bad situation so you can benefit yourself.

Good Luck! And I hope she does better!

Cheers.

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Originally Posted by fr3nchvanilla

I know this response is a bit late, and it's good to hear your sister is home, but If I might say something? I too have a "cancerous" family- that is a great way to put it. And Although I always did my best I ended up being kicked out repeatedly after my 16th birthday and had 2 years where I was hoping from house to house. I know you said you don't want to see a consellor, but like yourself I am very very closed even with my live-in boyfriend of 5 years. But I saw a consellor and it has helped a ton! It also wouldn't be a bad idea to try and form a relationship with your sister if not witht he rest of your family. I am still trying to maintain at least a civil relationship with my family when I have to see them but have made it my priority to be in my siblings lives and I have definately prospered because of it. You obviously know your own family better than anyone else on here. But you do only have 1 family, make the most of it. I'm sure you could help your sister tons as it seems like you are a good person just trying to remove yourself from a bad situation so you can benefit yourself.

Good Luck! And I hope she does better!

Cheers.

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Ive thought about trying to form/maintain a relationship with my sister, but at this point I think its doing more harm than good...on both ends. So as sorry as I am to say this, its going to have to wait. but as for the rest of my family, thats a differant story...forming a relationship is just...impossible. Ive gone through to much just to turn around and have it thrown in my face again.

Im sorry to hear about the way you were treated when you were younger as well, ( as you can tell ) I know how you feel. I do have to say that Im glad that you are able to be civil, as I cant, by their choice not mine.