anyone have this problem?

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Originally Posted by iCandiBallPythons

If you allow people to lead you around by the nose in life, it's pretty simple,they will. "Boy friends" and "girlfriends" both have something in common- they are expendable. if they dont accept you for who you are including your passions, dreams and wants out of life there is a simple answer, there are people that will. When I first started dating my fiance she thought I was a nut because I had so many ball pythons until she realized the passion I have for my animals and building this business into the vision that Ive had since I was a small child. I have always been an entrepreneur at heart and that is my other passion- and she has never once said no to either because she knows I take care of what I need to. Is she fully comfortable with them? NO. Is she accepting of it? most definitely, because its so much of my life. We purchased a new house awhile back for after the wedding in july and I have seen a twinkle in her eye as she has seen the process of the big climate controlled ball python room with a walk in incubator come together the last couple of months. The moral here is boyfriends and girlfriends come and go but a true life partner is just that, someone that supports your passions, dreams, and your life wants. If youre with someone that dont- you are sadly wasting your time.

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My sentiments exactly! I wonder if that is why I am currently single? lol

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Originally Posted by Wh00h0069

My sentiments exactly! I wonder if that is why I am currently single? lol

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Maybe thats why Im 33 and getting married for the first time :gj:

Funny thing is, my wife gets mad about how much time I can spend caring for our snakes BUT gets really pissed about how much more time I spend with the rats:rofl:
I tell her, you love our snakes right? Well dont you think they should have the best food we can provide? Your dogs do so why not them? Then I get :rolleyes: and well okay just hurry up:rolleye2:

the better part is SHE GOT ME INTO SNAKES and didnt think it would go this far:weirdface:weirdface:weirdface
If I only told her my future plans:rofl::rofl::rofl:

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Originally Posted by mommanessy247

wow keyboard your gf gets mad over flowers? she knows that those purty flowers are only gonna stay purty for a few days before they, um, wilt and die, right? for that reason i'm not picky about flowers even though my bf has gotten them for me a couple times. i always accept them gratefully but i dont require them, or any "relationship gift" for that matter, i'm just not a materialistic person. i'll appreciate time spent together more then an object.
my bf is addicted to computer games like warcraft and DDO and that sometimes infuriates me cuz it interferes with him doing the things he needs to do around the house and the "family time" i try to create at dinner. we're always waiting for him to "finish killing a boss" and i'm always like "i'm gonna unplug that flipping computer and you can watch that stupid boss disappear!"
i sound like a crazy monster dont i? i'm not jealous of him playing, i just get upset when he's so busy doing that rather then the things that are more important in life. i'm sorry to me a computer game doesnt even register as a blip on the radar of what's beneficial.

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Thats what I tell her!!! She says its the thought that counts :rolleyes:

I have been told by my best friend (who's a 40 year old male) on a regular basis that I'm going to be alone forever because of my snakes. My response was if someone cannot accept me for who I am, I'd rather be alone. I spent almost 4 years in a miserable marriage with a man who tried to change everything about me....never again. If I can't find a man who is okay with me not only loving snakes and reptiles, but owning quite a few, then I'd rather be alone.

Edit: I went back and read the comments, I notice you keep using the word "jealous". Just for the record....from experience....that emotion gets worse before it ever gets better. If he's "jealous" of your snakes, what if you have a male friend, or go out with girl friends and he just assumes your with a guy. I went through hell because I didn't see the red flags...Just think and look into what you want in the long term.

I agree lgray! Anyone who want to be with me has to accept me for me and all if me. I see my reptiles as my hopes and dreams in life. They keep me on the straight and narrow. Like said before if he doesn't accept you and all of you for you. Stop wasting time. Life is too short to be miserable. Asking you to get rid of a child basically is totally rediculous. And personally I'd say I'll get rid of you before I get rid of them. I'm sure in his eyes he doesn't see it that way but also have you ever asked him to get rid of the computer, or ps, or xbox or whatever it is??

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Originally Posted by Homegrownscales

have you ever asked him to get rid of the computer, or ps, or xbox or whatever it is??

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whoa whoa whoa...........no need to get vulgar here:D:D:rofl::D:D

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Originally Posted by iCandiBallPythons

If you allow people to lead you around by the nose in life, it's pretty simple,they will. "Boy friends" and "girlfriends" both have something in common- they are expendable. if they dont accept you for who you are including your passions, dreams and wants out of life there is a simple answer, there are people that will. When I first started dating my fiance she thought I was a nut because I had so many ball pythons until she realized the passion I have for my animals and building this business into the vision that Ive had since I was a small child. I have always been an entrepreneur at heart and that is my other passion- and she has never once said no to either because she knows I take care of what I need to. Is she fully comfortable with them? NO. Is she accepting of it? most definitely, because its so much of my life. We purchased a new house awhile back for after the wedding in july and I have seen a twinkle in her eye as she has seen the process of the big climate controlled ball python room with a walk in incubator come together the last couple of months. The moral here is boyfriends and girlfriends come and go but a true life partner is just that, someone that supports your passions, dreams, and your life wants. If youre with someone that dont- you are sadly wasting your time.

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exactly. if hes "jealous", like LGray said, its going to get worse (wayyy worse) before it gets better. ive been in a few relationships like that. your boyfriend obviously isnt accepting you for who you are, what your passions are, and is trying to change it. yes, you guys have been together for over 2 years, and the way hes acting just presented itself....if i were you...i would compromise (you spend less time with your snakes, him less with video games) and see if this helps at all. also talk it out before you just call it quits. insecurities are hard to overcome, and it sounds like your guy is having a moment.

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Originally Posted by Homegrownscales

have you ever asked him to get rid of the computer, or ps, or xbox or whatever it is??

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haha, my fiance begs me to play COD with him, but i just sit and watch contently...hes not on that much, so its not a big deal to me. I wouldnt ask him to get rid of it anyways, since I bought it for him for christmas. :rofl:

Omg I hate ps3. If really like to take my bfs and throw it out the window. But I get my 200+ collection of various reptiles and he gets that stupid box. Compromise compromise. I don't see how anybody thinks those games are fun. I'd rather go play tackle football. And I'm a female. Lol