I'm addicted, and the hubby is not.

Your husband, like the snake, needs time to acclimate to the new surroundings. You could try leaving him alone for a week with no handling, then offer a meal... :8::rofl:

The fact that he is scared of snakes but is trying to hold yours says volumes about his character. Snake fears are pretty common, and the only thing to do is to do your best to show him as much of the good stuff about herpetoculture as you can in a fun setting where he can feel safe.

Reptile shows are a great thing to hit up. My gf didn't (and still doesn't REALLY) like big snakes, but after starting her out with small snakes and colorful stuff like panther chameleons, she came back from the last show saying "I could have held that 8ft reticulated python".

It sounds like he's pretty willing to try and get used to them . I agree that waiting might be the best idea. If he doesn't mind holding the snake, its only a matter of time before he learns the difference between a yawn and a threat. He just needs a little more time to build confidence. :)

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I agree with time he will come around. my wife dont like snakes but she is getting used to them i put my male on the bed with her while i was cleaning out his cage and she watched him closely but she was fine with it as long as it didnt move or touch her. now my 5 year old daughter is the opposite from her she loves them she told me when i got my female the other day that she was her snake.:D

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would you marry me?.lolz!.

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LOL :laughing: sorry but I'm already taken :)

Thanks to everybody else though, this has been a great help! :D He is curious, so I'm hoping that will continue to develop into love and addiction as well, or at least enough so I can get another one. :gj:

My husband from day one told me NO SNAKES!! I'd ask every few months if we could get one and it was always a big "NO!"
When we got taxes back this year we went into the exotic pet store to look into getting salt water fish. They have ball pythons I was holding one as my husband and son looked at the fish and the price to convert our tank to a salt water talk.
It was less expensive to get the snake and everything we needed than to convert the tank for salt water fish ... then we would have had to get the fish.

He said reluctantly that I could get the snake. Of course I freaked out and did a happy dance. The store owner told us that we couldn't leave until my husband held it (joking around) and my husband took him seriously haha. He held the snake cautiously then gave it back to me.
When we got home and I had held our new ball after the week of adjustment ... my husband started to warm up to him.
Well, now we have two. And are getting a third tomorrow. Plus he's looking into morphs that he wants and planning to convert our laundry room into a snake room haha.

I think he'll warm up.

My fiance Blake isn't terribly interested in snakes. I don't think he has taken any of the snakes out of the tub. He has held one or two of them a couple times, but I never push him to do it. It's my hobby, not his, so he really doesn't have a reason to hold them. I took him to the Tinley (Chicago) show this past year and he realized where my interest in BPs spawned from. Since the show he has become mildly interested in ball pythons, but still leaves the hobby to me.

My advice is to give it time and take your hubby to a reptile show. It's been about three years since I got my first BP and it took until October for Blake to become the slightest bit interested ;)

About 8 years ago before my wife and I got married, we had a small normal, and she wasn't scared of it or anything, but one day we made a trip to the pet store to buy some mice to feed him, and somewhere along the way she had touched the mouse, when we got home we had 'Maynard'(I named him after the singer of Tool) out letting him crawl around, and needless to say he smelled mouse on her hand, and struck at her, ever since then my wife has been real cautious about them, we had to give him away a few months after that, because we had to live with her parents to help take care of her grandmother, and about 2-3 months ago I told her I wanted another ball python and she said no, but she gave in, and I ended up getting 2, and I'm about to get a third one, in about a week or so. Anyway's, my wife is coming around, and she's getting back used to having a snake or two around, and she's back to holding them, and helping me take care of them like she used to, so just give him time, and before long he'll probably be picking out ones that he wants:D

Hi. I know how you feel 100%. My boyfriend was against the idea of me getting a snake at first and always told me that it seems like I am never happy but he has grown to like the pastel I bought last year. If you want another snake, then get one. I just purchased a new spider without my boyfriend's "permission" because he was going to be against the idea. Your hubby will eventually warm up to the idea and won't hold it against you...even if he seems upset at first. Just go for it if that is what you want and what makes you happy. :)

I would caution against buying expensive morphs if you can't afford them. However, if bills are paid and you are able to save your own money for it without having to cut into his or your shared finances, then technically, you can do what you want! I recommend waiting until you have all the money so you don't have to do a payment plan and don't go too overboard. My bf didn't understand my Morph obsession and still doesn't, but he thinks my snakes are cute and has adopted a lost kingsnake a neighbor found in their backyard. (We're pretty sure he was a pet, he's a Sonoran desert king and we are on the Oregon border, ha ha...)

Sometimes husbands/boyfriends/friends get addicted as bad you you, sometimes they don't. As long as you have your snakes and he can have his own things I'd say that's a pretty good way to work it out! I have an adversive hatred of video games because of an obsessed ex, don't make him feel like the snakes are more important and I'm sure he'll come around! Besides, waiting only makes the morphs more affordable!!!! XD