Do Girls want a huge engagement ring...

As a girl, I'm not terribly big on real jewelry. Most of what I wear is fake or made out of alternative materials (stainless steel, etc) or upcycled materials.

I did tell my boyfriend (easiest term to describe him since we're long term but not officially engaged) that I want a custom engagement ring though. The size of the stone isn't whats important. But if I'm going to be wearing this and my wedding ring every day I want to LOVE it. Its a lengthy discussion we've had several times and he is totally on board.

However, if he'd happen to get me a different ring (especially before we'd had the discussion above) then it would be a non issue anyway. Whatever he got me would be something I'd love, because I love him. He's planning on doing the crazy custom thing for me, because it's what I'd love to have.

The SIZE of the ring isn't what's important here; its the size of the heart that owns the finger it sits on.

Well said, Cinderbird, well said! :gj: :gj: Two thumbs up, lol!

Given the truth about the diamond trade, I would never wear or keep a diamond.
In fact, if someone gave me a diamond (if I were a woman, or for whatever other reason), I wouldn't accept it. In fact I would question their ethics and worldly knowledge.

Well I will play devils advocate here. When my ex brought up the discussion of marriage (his ploy to get me back) one night during a conversation on the phone he simply asked me if he were to propose, what size & cut diamond would I like.

I told him 2 ct round and told him which setting, well a month later he asked. He had a 1ct round in a smaller setting, hmmmmmm did I say no, no I didn't, after we were married a year, I returned to the jewelers and got the 2ct round that I wanted.

Now with all that said, he could more than afford whatever I wanted, but if he could not have, I would have been just as pleased with anything he gave me.

The mere fact that he loved me enough to ask me to marry him was enough.

It's sad to say that many women treat marriage as a business arrangement, and they are always looking to trade up.

Your girl should have been happy with the fact that you want to marry her at all.

You shouldn't care all that much about the ring, it's about love and all that junk like everyone has already said ;)

I think it's silly to get a huge engagement ring anyway, seeing as you can either have stuff added on to it to make your wedding ring more special or you'll end up buying a different wedding ring anyway! My dad bought my mom a small ring with a few little diamonds on it, when they got married he added a center diamond and had the ring redesigned. Now that they have been married they will continue to change it on anniversaries!

Nathan and I are saving up money for our lives, we know we will have to live on a budget and we know every bit of money we spend on the wedding/ring will be money we could have used to buy a nicer house/pay for food! We of course still want a beautiful wedding and to have it look nice--you know, a wedding isn't something that happens more than once if you're lucky, but I wouldn't spend millions and millions if I had that money!

As far as the engagement ring goes, I know Nathan knows my style, he's bought me jewelry in the past, and so he knows what I would like. I know he plans on buying the diamonds separate and designing the ring himself, so even though it will be on the cheaper side, it will come off more as modern and elegant and I will love it because he designed it and it came from his sweet heart :)

So when it comes to me, the ring is second to the man I will marry... I guess specifically about the ring, I'm not big on giant jewelry anyway, so I'm more into style than size, you can make the tiniest diamonds look great depending on how it's set! But some people are more into the 'wow' factor I guess..whatever!

she said the ring was too small, now when you buy her a car after your married is it going to be good enough? is the house you buy going to be good enough? is she going to blow your money or needless things because the current stuff isn't good enough?

I'm only saying this based on the little bit of knowledge you gave us, but you need to find a girl with real values, you could be setting yourself up for a bad XX years before you fall in the 50% divorce category we have in the states. Sounds like a sign of things to come.

I haven't gone through and read all the comments yet, but I wanted to give my input. The size of a ring, or any ring at all does not measure a woman's love for her man, for me anyways. I think you should give what you feel is appropriate according to YOUR budget. Obviously if your making $5,000 a year, then you probably shouldn't go out and spent $1,000 on a ring. If a man is making over $100,000 a year, then a more expensive ring would probably be more suitable. For ME, I don't really care if I have a huge diamond...when I married my ex husband (sorry for the downer lol) he gave me a $400.00 ring with small diamonds in it. I was thrilled, the size didn't matter, especially at that point in time. Just get what you think is in your own personal budget, shop around at a few places and find the best fit. Don't put yourself into massive amounts of debt for a stupid ring lol.

For the record, we did not get divorced because of his ring size.

EDIT: woooooowwwww!! I didn't even see the part where she said it was too small....sure this is a good idea pal? That's a red flag if I've ever seen it....

Take it from the man that gave a huge ring it doesn't mean anything. If your girlfriend is really in love with you it shouldn't matter. I spent a fortune and that didn't change anything for us. This is just the start buddy. I should have seen the red flags long before our relationship ended, because once I couldn't afford to spend extravagant amount of money on her she took off. In retrospect it was definitely for the better. If she would have stuck around I would still be flat broke, and not be able to do anything that I really want to do. I sure wouldn't have the bp collection that I have going on...lol

But just remember that my advice is a touch jaded, and you really should do what will make you happy. Please go in with your eyes wide open though.....

Tens of thousands murdered or mutilated. A diamond is forever...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWG6xVuNKXE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoJNwmZ74bU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zdtt1WWuMBM

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Originally Posted by mikeau

A question I wanted to ask. Guys, do you feel pressured to go all out and spend a ton of money on an engagement ring to please your girl?

Girls, does the size of the ring actually increase how much love you feel for your man?

I dont have a insane budget but the ring I purchased for my potential wife the other day she said was to small so that sucked and now I don't know what to do. So, what's your felling about this?

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She should appreciate your token of love! I feel that kind of reaction is very shallow, and her response was demeaning! I would never tell my husband that. I would be concerned how she will act in the future with things you buy, and decisions you make!