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Lol, I was in the same boat. My fiance, didn't like me having snakes and thought I was out of my mind until I took him to the Tinley show in October with my sister. Once he saw the show and how amazing the designer morphs were he understood why I got into this hobby and why I enjoy it. He's pretty excited about the snakes now and even bought his first at the show, a Mojave female! Since you already tried that, I'm not sure what route you would take now....lol. It did take two years to even get him to come to a show, so I think you are on the right path.
Oh, and my mom was deathly afraid of snakes. She would have nightmares of them all the time, and couldn't even look at pictures of snakes. Now that she's been exposed to them she's almost cured! She even comes over every other day when I'm on vacation to check on all my critters, including the snakes! One of the times she called me almost screaming to tell me that she had to take out my biggest female, and clean her tub because she spilled her water! It was hilarious! She even bought a new bowl for that female! :rofl:
Your wife will eventually learn to tolerate it, and probably accept it one day!
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Re: What if your Sig. Other doesnt like the Herp Obsession?
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Originally Posted by Monster Dodge
The last show I was at, I held this amazing looking bumble bee morph that snapped at my hand and proceeded to twist.... I just kinda laughed and was like Owwwwwch....lol
My wife completely freaked out like it was a Western Diamondback that just tagged me:rofl:
After that she was like screw this so...... I dunno
Compare that story to the last time you played with a kitten or a puppy. Explain that its totally different with an animal that you know and work with on a regular basis. You would never put her in a situation where you think she will get bit. But its not a big deal so you have no problem putting yourself in that situation. You can't guarantee she will never get bit if she holds your snakes or puts her hand in the enclosure but you can guarantee you will never intentionally put her in harms way.
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I don't think there is a single relationship that doesn't have similar issues where one partner has a hobby/like and the other has an irrational (or possibly rational) dislike.
I don't like dancing. I hate it. I've tried to enjoy it for the sake of my girlfriend, but loud music, dark rooms, bright lights, and crowds are a sensory overload that is just all way too much. It is the exact opposite of fun and relaxing.. tense and upsetting. No thank you.
My girl doesn't particularly enjoy fishing. Out of the 5 years we've been together, we've gone fishing twice. I go practically weekly during the warmest months of the year.
While I'd certainly like to think that I'd like us to do everything together, it's probably healthy that we're not THAT dependent on each other that our relationship falls apart if we don't. We do just about everything else together (including pets of all shapes and types!) though, so the areas where we don't overlap aren't a big deal.
My suggestion to the OP: The reptiles can be a thing between you and your daughter. Daddy-bonding time is important! As long as your wife has some things that help her not feel left out, I think there isn't anything wrong.
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Re: What if your Sig. Other doesnt like the Herp Obsession?
Recently, I lost a guy to the snakes. He was completely terrified of them, and wouldn't even walk into my apartment. I gave up on him.
My ex-husband was scared of them at first, but he slowly got used to them just by being around me with them and going to snake shows. I got him a baby ball for his birthday, and once he had his own snake, he warmed up to them all over time. I had a few that he was nervous about, but he handled most of them. Once he got bitten for the first time, all the fear seemed to go away and he handled everything I had then (nothing venomous)
I would say just give it time if she really wants to get over her fears.
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My hubby LOVES the snakes and tolerates the lizards...(other than Princess Bob the beardie). I have to say education is the best way to help ppl. I teach kids at schools about reptiles...they in return talk to their parents. Since we have such a small town we all pretty much know each other. I have had parents call or kids call me asking to bring their parents over that are scared of stuff. I always take out the smallest first...:rolleyes:...we talk about it. They see the snakes with their children and how gentel they are. I would say I have about a 90% turn around. They are typically still very cautious but at least petting them and not so totally freaked out. The key I think is not to push anyone into it. Let them come around to it.
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When my husband and I met, and he told me he wanted to get a snake, I was like, "You are CRAZY! Snakes are EEEVIL!!!!" Ok, not really, but there was no way I was going to be involved.
Well, that one snake turned into 3, and then 5, and then 8, and now we're up to almost 30 assorted snakes, and I am in the beginnings of breeding balls.
I'm not sure what happened really. But I started out with lizards. I don't know HOW someone can not find a crestie cute as can be. Once I felt more comfortable with them, I got my first snake. My husband suggested a ball python because of their easy nature. Who knew it would turn into this!
There are MANY aspects to reptile keeping. Is she willing to get involved with anything? If she's creative, and you use tanks, maybe she can be your 'tank designer'. Or if she's ok with it, she can breed your feeders. Or she can help you with genetics if she is a science type. Without knowing her its a bit difficult to pinpoint what she can help with, but you get the general idea.
If not, buy her a cat. :)
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Been there done that, my husband did not even want to look at them at first, touching was DEFINITELY out of the question, he however had no issue with ne pursuing something that I loved and that was enough for me I did not expect more from him.
I never forced this hobby on him I just started educating him slowly, showing him snakes that I have, talking about genetics, cutting eggs in front of him, letting him witness babies coming out if their eggs, taking him to shows etc.
At some point after a while the snake talk and a better understanding of those creatures started to rub on him and while he is not that crazy about my BP he fell in love with one of my female Honduran (now HIS)
This Hondo is the only snake he will touch, handle and recently started to get out of her enclosure by himself.
I am still not expecting him to be involved in this, this is MY hobby but I am glad to see that he has come such a long way and now have an appreciation for those amazing creatures.
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