Thought I'd better introduce myself as things seem to be a bit shaky .
Well , we appear to be back to square one again .....
I've had my knuckles rapped , so to speak and I will now endeavour to stay with the guidelines / rules of the forum in future .
I would reiterate that , at no time have I , nor will I ever intend to upset or antagonise any "innocent" party / parties our there .
However , it does feel that every little thing I post now is being scrutinised and quite often criticised ...
As I've said previously ...... I'm a real nice guy .
Thought I'd better introduce myself as things seem to be a bit shaky .
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Lizardlicks
Number of dudes I've had tell me they were "nice guys": I've lost count at this point.
Number of those dudes that turned out to be actually nice guys: exactly none of them.
I mean, that's probably not relevant, but still, lived experience. Niceness is determined through actions, how you treat other people. I can tell you right now whether you intend it to show up or not, the snide sort of condescending tone that pops up in most of your posts when there's a dispute in husbandry practices is what rubs people the wrong way. Maybe try to watch for that and you're interactions will go smoother?
The trouble is I just don't 'see' what you're clearly seeing ... similarly I apparently mispronounce some words , by putting the emphasis on the wrong part of the word or something like that - just to give an example of my difficulties - its just part of Aspergers .
I've never , ever , been accused of being condescending in the real world so that's kinda strange to hear you suggest it .
I certainly would never want to appear condescending that's for certain .
As to the other point ..... I truly am a nice guy :)
You don't manage to work with autistic teenagers for 20 years by being anything other than being patient and caring , understanding , dedicated to helping and genuinely nice .... anything other than the above and the kids themselves would sense it and see through any facade .
Thank you so much for trying to help out ..
Re: Thought I'd better introduce myself as things seem to be a bit shaky .
The internet can be a harsh experience.
I left a political forum a few months ago over how another departing member was treated. Decided I'd had enough of being around smug, nasty, narrow minded people. This place is a welcome retreat compared to THAT place (...pit of vipers, metaphorically speaking :P)
Not everyone is going to get along.
Try not to let someone else's snark bother you.
Re: Thought I'd better introduce myself as things seem to be a bit shaky .
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JoshSloane
Even Pitontheprowl and I manage to agree on things now and again.:gj:
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Thought I'd better introduce myself as things seem to be a bit shaky .
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JoshSloane
The Internet is rife with miscommunication. Sometimes it is helpful just to sit back and digest other people's posts, consider different view points and tone before firing back a reply. Communicating is hard enough in PERSON , let alone on a forum.
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Ive just been reading through these last posts again and when I got to yours I read PERSON as PRISON !!
See what I'm up against , fellas ?!?!?
Re: Thought I'd better introduce myself as things seem to be a bit shaky .
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Zincubus
Ive just been reading through these last posts again and when I got to yours I read PERSON as PRISON !!
See what I'm up against , fellas ?!?!?
HA. I guess it would make sense either way. I mean, communicating with people in person is hard, but I imagine it would be doubly so in prison.
