Baby time???

Ok I could not think of what else to call this thread so here goes...

I have an 8 year old son, we are thinking of having a second.

My son is from my first marriage. Now that me and my new wife have been together and ironed out alot of our "us" issues we have rethought wanting a child.

We want to adopt a child from a teen mother, Dylan (my son) was born one month after I turned 16.

We will have paid off all our old debt and be want to be in our own home (not renting) before we adopt.

I have always been against younger people having children because the way a child effects your relationship and you need to be young when you have the chance. I am 24 and my wife is 25 we are still young but we already have one kid and we don't want to be having one when our first one is graduating (36+ years of having a kid in the house doesn't really do it for me)

So I know some people have adopted on here and if you guys could home in please do.

I have not told any one in my family because I don't need opinions from people with baby fever. I want genuine questions and concerns.

So basically yea let me know what you think.

Love you all
mike

Sorry about the typos it is sometimes hard to make long posts from an iPhone. You can't scroll back through and edit.

I think you'd do a good job, the best you knew how, which I do think would be good.

But does the world REALLY need another RedNeck?

My sister adopted after she and her husband had one child and couldn't have anymore. My family treated her the same as any other kid born to any of us.

If you don't have the support of your family or if they won't accept an adopted child and treat it as one born to you, think very carefully about what you're heading into.

As a second class family member, the love needed to raise a healthy and happy child may be lacking which would mean you either compensate, or over compensate, or struggle with your family for what could well be the rest of your life.

Kudos for going this route if you do.

Adopt? The best part of having a new baby is making them ;) In all seriousness Mike, if you can love someone elses baby like your own and give it a loving, caring home and everything he/she needs then I say God bless you and do it :gj: :gj:

Both of our families would be supportive. My wifes family already accepts my son as theirs. My family would love it. But if any one, especially my son, doesn't want to be apart of it we would seriously reconsider. This is not a decision that effects only my wife and I. It is going to be a family decision.

I'm sure he wouldn't mind a baby brother or sister, but i'm curious as to why you wouldn't have the baby yourselves instead of adopting?

My wife can't have children. We have always talked about adoption. The big reason for me is I don't care for the world we are living in today. I don't want to bring another person into this, so why not adopt a child that is already here. It might be a strange or negative reason but I have NEVER wanted a child of my own, at least not blood. I would accept an adopted child as mine.

Ok I see now. Well I hope all goes well and you can find a baby to adopt, and I see how you feel, it's not negative. You're just trying to give a baby that's already here a better life since they may not have one, possibly from a teen mother who yea.

I'd say go for it man, sounds like you and your wife already know what you're doing with your first son and if you can love an adopted child as if it was your own that's great. Good luck!!

Just beware when the baby gets older, if you tell him he was adopted, he may/may not want to find his blood parents. Then you may have to deal with when he gets older and gets mad at you, him screaming: "You're not my parents, you can't tell me what to do." and i'm sure that can be pretty painful hearing that.