What Should i do?

So i love ball pythons and have 6 of my own but sometimes i wish i had maybe one more and ive thought about getting a pastel or a pinstripe that way i could make some killer combos with my spiders i have, but the problem is my girl wont let me get anymore she thinks i have to many and to me and im sure alot agree with me 6 just aint enough LOL So should i get another ball python.:rolleyes: WHAT DO YOU SAY EVERYONE!

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Originally Posted by B@LLZ4LIFE

So i love ball pythons and have 6 of my own but sometimes i wish i had maybe one more and ive thought about getting a pastel or a pinstripe that way i could make some killer combos with my spiders i have, but the problem is my girl wont let me get anymore she thinks i have to many and to me and im sure alot agree with me 6 just aint enough LOL So should i get another ball python.:rolleyes: WHAT DO YOU SAY EVERYONE!

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I say respect your girls wishes.. or sell off some of the normals and get a few morphs.

Respect the wishes of your significant other if you guys are serious. Serious to me means at the minimum living together, or see a long and bright future together. And if she is not open to you gettin one more now, what is she going to say when a bunch of babies join the mix? Proceed with caution....

Don't get in the habit of letting her make your decisions for you. This is how the woman starts to wear the pants...

Seriously though, if it's not taking up too much space and invading her space or inconveniencing her, then do what you want. You should compromise with her if it's going to affect her, but don't let her keep you from doing what you want if it's not.

Just my opinion, I couldn't be with someone who controlled what I did. Like I said though, compromise, not control.

I really do feel for you man, it must be terrible to have a girl contolling your hobbys. My girl wants me to get more snakes, she loves anything that moves or slithers, a big time pet lover.

When I got my snakes my gf wasn't very excited but she tolerated it. So what i did was have her help me take care of them. Like having her feed them or clean the enclosures. Now she's gotten hooked and is begging me to get more so that i can breed eventually. My best advice is to try to get her involved in the hobby too. There's nothing like sharing something you love with the person you love.

Time was that I worked retail in a shop that was reptiles only.

Time and again I saw this scenario work:

Guy finds us and either already has snakes or starts to get serious about them.

Guy builds up a nice little group and is completely happy with them, see Guy all the time.

Guy starts coming around a little less. Then a little less.

Guy comes in with female human to show her The Snake Store he's always talking about.

Female human smiles, makes nice and leaves without becoming enthusiastic about Guy's friends, scaled or otherwise.

Guy comes in, not as often but still takes good care of his snakes. For about 2 months.

THEN Guy comes in and needs to sell his snakes because he "loves" this female human and wants to spend the rest of forever with her.

Guy is told that this is an oft seen scenario and he should not only think twice buy maybe even three times before getting rid of his snakes. Guy is told that once they come to the store, not only will he have to pay retail WHEN he wants them back, but that it is likely they will be sold before he realizes that he made an error of judgment.

Guy states again his "love'' for female human and sells his snakes.

About 4, sometimes as many as 6, months go by without seeing Guy at all. One day, Guy is back, looking sad and depressed, asking if any of his snakes are still in the store.

Turns out that the "love" of his life also loved the bartender at their favorite bar, the pool boy, the checker at the market, the mechanic, and the really ugly chick who worked at the butcher dept. at the grocery store that Guy no longer goes to.

Guy should have listened.

Guy and all the other Guys usually disengage all devices that comprehend common sense as well as advice from Men when it pertains to the "loves" of their lives.

We did get some damnfine snakes though.

Take this as a cautionary but VERY true tale.

Just to be clear here. Control in a relationship isn't a good thing neither one of you control the other. However, if you care for her then taking her feelings into concideration isn't control..it's mature. If your living together and she's paying the bills with you then she does have a say.

I got my second snake months before I got married. We were saving money for a wedding, had just bought a house, and I come to her wanting to spend a huge amount of money on a snake $250.00. She agreed reluctantly and we agreed I wouldn't get anymore till after we were married. 6 weeks after we were married I got 6 more. Once I got to 10 snakes I was told if I wanted any more they would have to get moved out of the office. So I renovated two connected storage rooms and built a 16'X14' snake room it's solely a snake room. Well then the rats got to being to much so we built a rat barn that is being over seen by one of my business partners.

Compromise isn't a bad thing it just means you may have to change your plans.

If you live together come to a compromise (like said earlier, maybe sell a normal and replace it with a morph)

If you live separately get another snake

I like the suggestion of getting her involved in the hobby, maybe purchasing her one of her own little ones? I have a feeling that after she sees how great it is that she will be begging to get more.