Anyone ever had engagment break off?

Going through it now and it's pretty tough.

Alot of bad things happened within her family and it has placed her is a super state of depression and denial that she needs help.

It has pretty much ruined all hopes in working things out. We have tried for the last 2 months and no progress.

All my friends and family say its time to move on but its so hard.

I dont even have words for this. Im so sorry to hear of that, that is a sad thing. But in the general scheme of things, 2 months is just a hurdle, hang in there, dont give up, keep your heart true, and the best will come.

I have not personally but my good friend did and it was rough, I dont know the details so im no good for detailed advice but if its worth it wait it out

I wasn't engaged, but before christmas got out of an almost 5 year relationship. There were lots of differences between us (snakes included) that we just couldn't put aside, and a few other reasons, it was more my decision, but still not easy.

Buuuut! It definitely happened for the best! Good things always seem to happen when you least expect them.

Good luck! Keep your chin up!:gj:

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Originally Posted by N4S

Going through it now and it's pretty tough.

Alot of bad things happened within her family and it has placed her is a super state of depression and denial that she needs help.

It has pretty much ruined all hopes in working things out. We have tried for the last 2 months and no progress.

All my friends and family say its time to move on but its so hard.

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Dude, You sound like the one thats depressed! Stay by her side, But at a distance.. Give her her space and try not to get in her way while being there for her! I no it sounds Dumb.. But Trust me She needs you.. Try being her friend first and Lover second.. Good luck Man!

It all depends on the situation. I was engaged with someone I had been with for over 3 years. I think I knew all along that it would never work for us in the long run. Just too many differences in our personalities and the way we wanted to live our lives. When I finally had the courage to break it off, after the initial flood of emotions, I felt complete and total relief and haven't looked back since. Never been happier.

But that's just how it happened with me. Your case is different. This isn't something that other people can help you decide. Nobody but you and her know what it's truly like to be in your situation. Nobody knows exactly how you feel about one another. Sounds like it's time for a little soul-searching. You need to be sure before you take this big step that it is what you want and know that you won't change your mind. Don't rush into any decisions. Know yourself and what will make you happiest in the long run.

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Originally Posted by python.princess

It all depends on the situation. I was engaged with someone I had been with for over 3 years. I think I knew all along that it would never work for us in the long run. Just too many differences in our personalities and the way we wanted to live our lives. When I finally had the courage to break it off, after the initial flood of emotions, I felt complete and total relief and haven't looked back since. Never been happier.

But that's just how it happened with me. Your case is different. This isn't something that other people can help you decide. Nobody but you and her know what it's truly like to be in your situation. Nobody knows exactly how you feel about one another. Sounds like it's time for a little soul-searching. You need to be sure before you take this big step that it is what you want and know that you won't change your mind. Don't rush into any decisions. Know yourself and what will make you happiest in the long run.

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If you want her back, get her jealous. Tell her you are moving on and going on a date, and do it. Don't call and see what she does. Always be happy when you talk to her and never let her see you down.

If this doesn't work, nothing will, and there's a good chance she has someone else. This is usually the case anyway, she may just be acting depressed to try and save your feelings by not telling you the real truth.

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Originally Posted by Chainsaw

If you want her back, get her jealous. Tell her you are moving on and going on a date, and do it. Don't call and see what she does. Always be happy when you talk to her and never let her see you down.

If this doesn't work, nothing will, and there's a good chance she has someone else. This is usually the case anyway, she may just be acting depressed to try and save your feelings by not telling you the real truth.

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No disrespect but this advice really doesn't sit right with me for a few reasons.
1. Playing mind games with somebody who's already severely depressed is never a good idea.
2. If she was seeing somebody else, she'd probably be in pretty good spirits.
3. I very much doubt that she's a good enough actress to fool her fiance and everyone else around her into thinking she's depressed just to spare his feelings.

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Originally Posted by Chainsaw

If you want her back, get her jealous. Tell her you are moving on and going on a date, and do it. Don't call and see what she does. Always be happy when you talk to her and never let her see you down.

If this doesn't work, nothing will, and there's a good chance she has someone else. This is usually the case anyway, she may just be acting depressed to try and save your feelings by not telling you the real truth.

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I think this is a sad thing to even suggest he do.If her and her family are having hard times then doing something as childish as this could prove fatal in the long run.

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Originally Posted by python.princess

No disrespect but this advice really doesn't sit right with me for a few reasons.
1. Playing mind games with somebody who's already severely depressed is never a good idea.
2. If she was seeing somebody else, she'd probably be in pretty good spirits.
3. I very much doubt that she's a good enough actress to fool her fiance and everyone else around her into thinking she's depressed just to spare his feelings.

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I could have not said it any better :gj:.

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Originally Posted by N4S

Going through it now and it's pretty tough.

Alot of bad things happened within her family and it has placed her is a super state of depression and denial that she needs help.

It has pretty much ruined all hopes in working things out. We have tried for the last 2 months and no progress.

All my friends and family say its time to move on but its so hard.

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If you give her time and space to work on her personal problems then maybe the 2 of you can see how things go down the road.I will tell you like i have been told numerous times "if its meant to be it shall be" ;).Keep being her freind and that will show her you really care about her ;)