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  • 10-04-2017, 08:35 AM
    Pitonica
    Overreacting friend
    Hi.
    I have a BP over 6months now. My friend doesn't want to come visit me at my house anymore because of my snake, even dough it is in it's enclosure and I would not scare her by taking the snake out, told her I would even cover up the terrarium so she doesn't see the cave he is in!
    It's not a phobia, I think she is just overreacting, like some people who make a big fuss when they see a pit bull in the street...
    Anyways, she is making me a bit angry cause she is 40 and acting like a child.
    Did you guys have any situations like this?
    How do you react?
    Im not asking her to come iver anymore and I barely see her. Ive known her for a decade and she knew I love reptiles and eventually gonna get some.. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/201...3f5491dd10.jpg

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  • 10-04-2017, 09:06 AM
    bcr229
    If you want to maintain the friendship then agree to disagree about your pet, and see her elsewhere.
  • 10-04-2017, 09:31 AM
    tttaylorrr
    you can't expect to reason with someone who acts that way as a grown adult.

    you could try talking to her by explaining how her actions are making you feel; explain that the idea of a friend refusing to come into your home makes you feel X type of way and go from there without mentioning the snake at all. this might help her examine her own actions and do a bit of reflection.

    i wish i could help better, i know the feel. :(
  • 10-04-2017, 09:33 AM
    rufretic
    Doesn't sound like a very good friend if she's ready to give up the friendship over your own personal pet choice that affects her in absolutely no way. It would be different if you let a 20' retic roam your house freely and she chose not to come over because that could directly affect her but a little bp in a closed enclosure that will even be out of sight, affects her in no way. She's just trying to be controlling. I say let her go, not a very good friend anyway.

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    Doesn't sound like a very good friend if she's ready to give up the friendship over your own personal pet choice that affects her in absolutely no way. It would be different if you let a 20' retic roam your house freely and she chose not to come over because that could directly affect her but a little bp in a closed enclosure that will even be out of sight, affects her in no way. She's just trying to be controlling. I say let her go, not a very good friend anyway.
  • 10-04-2017, 10:39 AM
    dadofsix
    Re: Overreacting friend
    Just go to her house to visit
  • 10-04-2017, 10:51 AM
    cletus
    I agree with what bcr said. If the friendship is important enough to the both of you, there is surely a way to make it work.
  • 10-04-2017, 11:24 AM
    Pitonica
    Re: Overreacting friend
    Thanks for answers guys.
    We just meet outside but much more rare than before.

    Sometimes I feel that to some people cause of my love towards snakes I am considered a bad and a strange person, cause 'snakes are evil' or smthing like that.
    Wish more people would be curious anough to atleast educate themselves before judging ect..


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  • 10-04-2017, 11:29 AM
    Newbie39
    Re: Overreacting friend
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Pitonica View Post
    Thanks for answers guys.
    We just meet outside but much more rare than before.

    Sometimes I feel that to some people cause of my love towards snakes I am considered a bad and a strange person, cause 'snakes are evil' or smthing like that.
    Wish more people would be curious anough to atleast educate themselves before judging ect..


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    All my friends think I'm crazy for having a SNAKE. But they still come and see me. If they don't want to I would understand as not everybody loves snakes. In fact most people are scared of them. You have to understand that she may be very uncomfortable being around snakes. If it's a true friend you will make it work.
  • 10-04-2017, 11:34 AM
    Pitonica
    Re: Overreacting friend
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Newbie39 View Post
    All my friends think I'm crazy for having a SNAKE. But they still come and see me. If they don't want to I would understand as not everybody loves snakes. In fact most people are scared of them. You have to understand that she may be very uncomfortable being around snakes. If it's a true friend you will make it work.

    Ya, my friends too..and they still come over haha..except this one.
    I've met a mother of my boyfriend the other day and she told me at lunch that she dreamed of snakes cause I have one, poor woman had a nightmare.. What to say..
    I dream of snakes also, but nice morfs and so, nice dreams [emoji85] [emoji3]
    I guess spider loving people go through much worse than snake people [emoji39]

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  • 10-04-2017, 11:37 AM
    Newbie39
    Re: Overreacting friend
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Pitonica View Post
    Ya, my friends too..and they still come over haha..except this one.
    I've met a mother of my boyfriend the other day and she told me at lunch that she dreamed of snakes cause I have one, poor woman had a nightmare.. What to say..
    I dream of snakes also, but nice morfs and so, nice dreams [emoji85] [emoji3]
    I guess spider loving people go through much worse than snake people [emoji39]

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    Yup Spiders are way worse. My son was checking out baby furry things at the last expo. I got out of there quick and said not in my house lol.
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