The Boy Friend or Snakes ???

What a joke this guy I have been seeing for the last 4 years does not like snakes.... I belive he puts up with them cause he realy does love me. Well today he told me I spend to much time with my snakes and my rodents..... Last straw my animals come first, I am a care giver and realy enjoy what I do. My snakes come first so I am a cold person or ???.... Just wanting to know it any one else ever has come across this?

Any man that comes into my life comes in with the understanding that a)I am a parent and that will ALWAYS come first, no questions asked and b) I will NOT be giving up any animals for anyone. Period. End of story. Tell him to get over it or take a hike. I'm all for compromise in relationships, the extent of my compromise is I wouldn't get any MORE reptiles. The ones I already have are my responsibility and are not like selling an old video game I'm bored with.

Good for you. Apparently he really didn't accept you for you.

I haven't personally dealt with this but an old coworker proposed to his then gf and she said "Yes, but the snakes have to go." He was a manager at a pet store and bred corns and ratsnakes to make extra money. So he told her "Sorry, but they were here first and add income." Plus his favorite/pet albino was ridiculously awesome looking.

Ran into him a couple years ago and he was married to someone else and had a kid.

About a hundred years ago I had a retail reptile store. After we had been around for a while there was one scenario that had repeatedly played out the same way. Mostly it was guys, but sometimes it was girls.

Here's how it went.

Hey there Mr. Shopkeeper, I know I've had this snake, or these snakes, depending, for a while (sometimes years), but I've met someone I want to spend the rest of my life with and they're afraid of/don't like/don't understand/can't stand etc. my snakes so I've got to give them up. Will you take them off my hands and give them a good home?

Depending on the person and the reptiles they were trying to move on, we often aquired previously owned reptiles. Then, generally 3 to 6 months later that same person would come in and want their reptile or reptiles back because they had broken up with the love of their life.

Seriously, this happened often enough that I remember it 20 years later.

Don't do it. If he loves you, he'll adapt. If he can't adapt, does he really love you?

Snakes. Always pick the snakes, they dont talk back :rofl:

If he cant figure out how to love you for you then youre better off without him. He doesnt have to love your hobbies but he should support you and your interests if he really wants to be with you. :gj:

Playing devil's advocate, but how much time DO you spend with them? I didn't read in your post that he was telling you to get rid of them, or stop spending time with them, just that he feels it is too much. Although I agree you should never give up something you love for another kind of "love", this doesn't seem to be the question at hand. Have you asked him for specific input on what he needs, too? Why should he be the only one to adapt?

Snakes. The worst they will do is bite, and its usually adorable.

They need a "Like" button for posts aside from the thanks button.

Wilomn, LGray, Mike: "Like" :D

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They need a "Like" button for posts aside from the thanks button.

Wilomn, LGray, Mike: "Like" :D

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I think the Thanks button is like a Like button, just labelled differently. Works the same way anyways...I don't see a difference. Plus it adds to reputation.

No one comes between your animals if he loves you then he will put up with them . I could never give up my snakes .