Re: Need some mental help.
You did nothing.
You told the truth to your bf, rather than letting it slip up later on (making it suspicious).
Are you feeling guilty cuz you kinda sorta might like the guy?
Re: Need some mental help.
Sounds pretty cut and dry to me that there is not an issue here. Of course, get that guy his stuff back, but otherwise I would not sweat it.
Re: Need some mental help.
I don't think I like the guy in that way. I thought he was chill but I didn't really feel any attraction to him that I really noticed. And I feel no urge to see/hang out with him again. I would be happier if he never contacted me actually and I could just forget all about it.
I already gave the shorts to a friend since he didn't get back to me. I figured that way if he ever did want them back I know where they are, but they aren't hanging around my house.
Re: Need some mental help.
Well, then done and done. It is cool that you were very up front with everyone involved.
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I think what's really bothering me is that I'm being the nice person that I am and actually worrying about whether or not I led the guy on by accident or something when I should be "cold-hearted" and not give two stuff-that-comes-out-of-your-butt (pardon my language). I've been told that sometimes it seems like I'm being "flirty" when I honestly think I'm just being friendly.
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I think what's really bothering me is that I'm being the nice person that I am and actually worrying about whether or not I led the guy on by accident or something when I should be "cold-hearted" and not give two stuff-that-comes-out-of-your-butt (pardon my language). I've been told that sometimes it seems like I'm being "flirty" when I honestly think I'm just being friendly.
If he was interested in you, he would have texted you back. I don't think you have to worry at all about having led him on :)
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You have the curse of being a very hot girl, and pretty much every guy who meets you is interested on some level. I would not worry about it. Seems you acted very appropriately, and did not sound like you were leading anyone on.
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I think you could just feel uncomfortable? It's difficult to explain, you might feel like it came across that you were leading him on in some tiny way when you actually didn't but with people saying you come across as flirty when you're actually being friendly may make you think otherwise...if that makes any sense?
I know how you feel in that respect. I have a lot of guy friends, I find girls hard to get along with. Therefore, according to every girl that sees me with a guy, I'm a flirty dirty sleeparound!
A couple of months ago I went for a drink with a friend... Her partners step-father was at the pub. She says that what happened is a "rite of passage" in order to be his friend. Don't think so. We were chatting, I was being friendly, he had an interest in snakes. Next thing you know the guy's grabbed me from behind, yanked and bent me backwards and started attempting to french kiss me?! apparently I have "no choice, everybody has to do it".
After eventually managing to wrench myself free, I left. I kept it to myself for a month, because I felt so so so guilty. Almost like I had cheated on Grant, and I didn't want him to be angry and I was really scared. When I told him he was calm and collected and said it was okay. Then told me later on if he ever sees the bloke he's going to lay him out.
You don't have anything to feel guilty about, you didn't do anything. I think if you'd have gone home in no shorts he might have been a bit more concerned :)