horrible.....

Im moving yet again so I cant take all my snakes with......Im deffinately not leaving them home again after my caramel albino female and 2 other females died! Plus my boyfriend is extremely jealous of them.....so this morning he said "its me or a few of your snakes"....great so the deal I have is to let the cali king go and my het albino, pastel female, and spider male go BUT Im going to trade the spider and pastel for a bee which is what I got them for in the first place...and now I had to take my name off of the reptile rescuer list.....this is horribly upsetting makes my stomach feel sick I seriously just got my pastel last week.....

Ultimatums are not nice, especially in situations such as yours.

Do you NEED the boyfriend? Do you WANT the boyfriend? Would YOU be better off WITHOUT the boyfriend?

Good luck.

Sorry, but why let someone dictate your life?

Their your animals, he dont like get lost. Plenty more guys/women out there who do like snakes. I would NEVER get rid of my snakes cause a woman said its me or them.

Just echoing what's been said already.... but I'd take a good look at your relationship, even if it's painful to do so. Are you the person who said your boyfriend didn't like the snakes, but now has a ghost, or am I thinking of somebody else?

If this is a passion of yours, and a hobby you enjoy doing, don't compromise who you are and what you love. It's one thing to be open and flexible in a relationship, it's another thing to give up a piece of who you are at the demands of somebody else - that is not love or respect coming from him, and I strongly recommend you take a good objective look at your relationship before you get rid of your animals. It's one thing if you're neglecting the relationship due to an unhealthy attachment to the animals, it's another thing entirely if he is insecure about you being passionate about anything other than him.

Today it's the snakes, what will it be next time. Don't let ANYONE give you ultimatums, that's not a relationship, he's trying to control you. The red flags are a wavin' darlin, RUN!

All of the above are correct answers!

Its either all of you or none of you!

i understand what all of you are saying but I also see where my boyfriend is coming from hes always complaining I never hang out with just him its always me him and a snake and everytime I talk to him its about snakes so I feel bad the only reason I ever got into snakes is for a bumble bee ball python I thought it be cool to produce one myself but I dont have to I dont really want to risk a 3 year relationship just on something so little that I wanted to do for a fun project on the side. And Im not allowed more than 2 snakes where Im moving the landlord said no so either way they have to go either way but for now Im telling him its just for him but in reality its in order to live where I want its close to both of our jobs its a great neighborhood it comes furnished and completely redone and another plus.....NO where NEAR my family :D

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Originally Posted by python_addict

i understand what all of you are saying but I also see where my boyfriend is coming from hes always complaining I never hang out with just him its always me him and a snake and everytime I talk to him its about snakes so I feel bad the only reason I ever got into snakes is for a bumble bee ball python I thought it be cool to produce one myself but I dont have to I dont really want to risk a 3 year relationship just on something so little that I wanted to do for a fun project on the side. And Im not allowed more than 2 snakes where Im moving the landlord said no so either way they have to go either way but for now Im telling him its just for him but in reality its in order to live where I want its close to both of our jobs its a great neighborhood it comes furnished and completely redone and another plus.....NO where NEAR my family :D

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Looks like hes already did his job by making you feel like the victim here.

Theres other guys better that would love to talk snakes with you anytime.

but not other guys that im in love with ;)

Your young, First loves hardly work out. Move on or put your foot down.