I need to vent....

Well its been 1 1/2 years since my brother moved back into my parents house where I live. He lives in the living room of our familys home. Well with the economy that dosent seem that bad well he also has a child. Well that child cannot take care of itself yet so it needs parents. The mother of the child is a no good pos person and well shes pretty much out of the picture. Anywho my mom DOES EVERYTHING!!!! She is the childs main caretaker while my brother spends his time drinking with friends, or playing ps3. He also has had a D.U.I and lost his licenses so my mom takes him to work everymoning. He has a car that needs paint but hes too damn lazy. He spends all his money on beer cigarettes and going out to eat with friends. My parents have given him a place to live and have helped him a lot but he goes and blows his money and everynight leaves his child in my mothers care.... it really sucks, I just needed to vent.... :(

Ugh, yikes. That's a tough situation.

Maybe your bro will grow up someday soon :oops:

May Big Gunns suggest you do the same, then maybe your momma will realize she has become an "enabler".

Sad to say, it's your parents CHOICE to have it be this way. He's taking advantage, but they're letting it happen.

It's always sad to see it, and you can wish it were different, but then, why should he change his ways? He's got it made. Not everyone will chose to be a good person just on it's own merits.

Sometimes life's just not fair. HUGS! Know there's some good folks out there too.

It is really hard out in the real world! Maybe your mom should give him a little tough love and boot him out and make him see how good he has it!!

well here the thing i have tried to sit her down and tell her that she needs to let him learn and be a parent but she says that I dont have any kids and that I have no clue what she is going trough. Well she has gotten so stressed that what she likes to do is come home cry, then cook and go to bed but she keeps letting it happen. My brother is worthless in my eyes, he needs to grow up but he refuses. He keeps thinking he dosent have a family. I have talked to him about his alcoholism and all the negatives things that he keeps doing..... and he thinks that hes not in a commited relationship that he can go out and hook up with any girl he wants..... :( IM SO ******* pissed :(. All I know is that my dad is about to lose it also, he comes home 2hrs late from work just to not be around his family, before my brother moved back home it was a race to get home for him but now he dosent even want to come home. This is tearing apart my family.... and i hate it.

For the kid's sake I'd suggest you help your mom out as best you can. People like your brother don't come around often, and if they do it takes time and/or a serious negative life experience.

This really sucks for the kid and your family.

I wouldn't blame your parents if they kicked your brother out, but I hope they make sure the kid is well taken care of.

Your parents are enabling him. I would strongly suggest they give him a time limit and then dump him... just him, not the child of course. He will never improve unless he is given a reason to.

PS3, beer cigarettes... has to earn them himself.

I can understand your frustration!

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Originally Posted by jkobylka

Your parents are enabling him. I would strongly suggest they give him a time limit and then dump him... just him, not the child of course. He will never improve unless he is given a reason to.

PS3, beer cigarettes... has to earn them himself.

I can understand your frustration!

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This. It's one thing to be going through tough times, it's another to be going through tough times and not making and active effort to better your or your child's situation.

That sucks. I actually know someone who is like that! I don't talk to him, he's always given me the creeps but he's a guy that we all "know".

Hope your brother gets off his butt and learns some responsibility soon for your family's sake!