I need sympathy :(

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me:( We have been dating for 2 years and everyone said we were a match made in heaven. She made quilts, clocks, etc for me. We traveled other countries! Now she says she so overhelmed in school and has loss feelings for me....:( This is a NIGHTMARE. WHY !!! I can't cope with this I need help. I cry all day. My snake doesn't even cheer me up. She was my first girlfriend:(

First loves are the toughest to get over, and it feels like your world has ended. You need to take time to grieve and mourn the loss of the relationship. Give her some space, she may find that she is missing you, if you give her some time. However, don't count on it either.

I wise person once told me, depression can't hit a moving target. That means, as tough as it is, get out, do things - start volunteering for an organization that you believe in, go out with friends, do things, stay busy. It really does help in the long run.

I'm sorry for the loss of you relationship - it takes time to get over and move on, but be kind to yourself in the meantime. :hugs:

IMO Things happen for a reason.
Keep your chin up and take a break.
Maybe contact her once a week or so: catch up, see if she'd like to meet for lunch, etc
If nothing else you guys can at least have a positive relationship as friends.

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Originally Posted by rabernet

I wise person once told me, depression can't hit a moving target.

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thankies :oops:

couldnt have said it better myself. i went through this same situation. first REAL gf of 2 years. just follow the wise saying. i just got a job and kept busy. always busy. i slept early. sure enough, she called me back and said she made a mistake. unfortunately, i was too busy to go back :weirdface. and i found i didnt really need her. kinda gained confidence y'kno?

im sure it'll work out buddy. just stay busy for sure. the hardest part of falling in love is saying goodbye :(

I just went through this aswell, g/f of two years got overwhelmed with school and future and hauled like we never knew each other. All i can say is as painful as it has been it actually made my life better. Try going for walks, runs, and excercise to vent all the built up emotions. I used to be a lazzzy n now I do between 5-10 miles a day, work out on a regular basis, and feel better and look healthier then ever. Just try and keep your mental on your goals ($$$$). Go chill wit ur boys.

At least you had a girlfriend. I'm married and my wife wont let me have one.
Take a couple weeks to mourn and be done with it. Start from scratch. Go out allot with your friends get involved in the community or whatever you have to do to stay busy. Eventually you will run into someone with like interests. Good luck.

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Originally Posted by cartman89

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me:( We have been dating for 2 years and everyone said we were a match made in heaven. She made quilts, clocks, etc for me. We traveled other countries! Now she says she so overhelmed in school and has loss feelings for me....:( This is a NIGHTMARE. WHY !!! I can't cope with this I need help. I cry all day. My snake doesn't even cheer me up. She was my first girlfriend:(

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Oh my god, i am so sorry for you. I give you huggs!!!!!:rolleye2:

:(

I'm in a similar situation

4 years together

now we're taking some time and some space.

My suggestion is to have fun making lots of good and bad decisions, that's what I've been doing at least and surprisingly it's been working.

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Originally Posted by rabernet

I wise person once told me, depression can't hit a moving target.

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And if it can, there are always SSRIs. A true godsend.

Hang out with friends and keep your head up. It's hard but time heals.