Weekend plans? We might finally get a break!

[JasonG]

Soooo whats everyone up to?

My wife and I have had my mother staying at our house now for about a month. Well I think its about time we took advatnage and we are going to have her watch the baby while we get a much needed night out.

BUT

We have no feakin clue what to do, where to go, or anything...

We've been so busy, so much mommy and daddy... We've lost our night life, and have no clue what to do..

Any suggestions?

[frankykeno]

I think anyone whose a parent on this board totally understands. It's very easy to get so caught up in parenting, especially with an infant, that you basically pass each other like ships in the night.

I'd suggest avoiding things like the classic dinner and a movie or a loud club. All that does is prevent you two from getting in a word to each other. Maybe instead early dinner at a restaurant that doesn't tend to be family oriented (why listen to other people's kids cry and fuss on your adults only night out). Then a nice walk so you can talk, hold hands and remember why you made a family in the first place. Is there something you both enjoy like a museum, a lakeside park, or whatever that's close to where you are but you wouldn't tend to go there with your child?

You could even do a pass on the whole restaurant thing and just pack a really nice picnic basket of wine and treats and go sit by a lake. Being parents can be so much about the technical side of life (did you get the milk? don't forget diapers! did you help Jimmy with his homework yet?) that it's far too easy to become Mom and Dad and not a couple of people that fell in love. It's very nice to take an evening or just even a couple of hours to not think about anything but each other and get to talk about something other than the bills, the kids, the car that needs repairs, etc.

Oh and if your wife has just had a baby remember to compliment her. There's not a woman alive who doesn't worry her husband might not find her attractive just after she's had a child. We might not admit it publically but we all worry about that so even a small compliment goes a long, long way to winning you some brownie points.

[JasonG]

I think anyone whose a parent on this board totally understands. It's very easy to get so caught up in parenting, especially with an infant, that you basically pass each other like ships in the night.

I'd suggest avoiding things like the classic dinner and a movie or a loud club. All that does is prevent you two from getting in a word to each other. Maybe instead early dinner at a restaurant that doesn't tend to be family oriented (why listen to other people's kids cry and fuss on your adults only night out). Then a nice walk so you can talk, hold hands and remember why you made a family in the first place. Is there something you both enjoy like a museum, a lakeside park, or whatever that's close to where you are but you wouldn't tend to go there with your child?

You could even do a pass on the whole restaurant thing and just pack a really nice picnic basket of wine and treats and go sit by a lake. Being parents can be so much about the technical side of life (did you get the milk? don't forget diapers! did you help Jimmy with his homework yet?) that it's far too easy to become Mom and Dad and not a couple of people that fell in love. It's very nice to take an evening or just even a couple of hours to not think about anything but each other and get to talk about something other than the bills, the kids, the car that needs repairs, etc.

Oh and if your wife has just had a baby remember to compliment her. There's not a woman alive who doesn't worry her husband might not find her attractive just after she's had a child. We might not admit it publically but we all worry about that so even a small compliment goes a long, long way to winning you some brownie points.

Those are some great ideas right there.

Its such an awkward feeling to have to figure out what to do without the "baby"...

I told my wife last night we should just go to like bestbuy and shop... LOLOL We havent been anywhere without our daughter in 2 years now.. LOLOL

[Ginevive]

Well my hubby and I have no kids.. but sometimes we find the rare, whole day, that we both have off with no plans.. And we are at a loss too! It is so rare for us to have a nice long day together with no obligations, guests, or plans..
We take rides. We go drive along on some backroads, seeing the sites, trying to get minorly lost.. it is fun If you're in the city, go visit the country. If you live in the country, hit the big city. Or maybe re-visit a spcial spot that you two frequented when you were just getting together?
Jo's ideas were great as well

[frankykeno]

Those are some great ideas right there.

Its such an awkward feeling to have to figure out what to do without the "baby"...

I told my wife last night we should just go to like bestbuy and shop... LOLOL We havent been anywhere without our daughter in 2 years now.. LOLOL

Jason, the last night Mike and I spent alone without a child was our honeymoon night (and because it was my second marriage we still swung by the house to check on the kids anyways before heading to the hotel).

We do try to take some time here or there and thankfully Mike's days off are Tuesday and Wednesday so we get a bit of time alone with the kids in school (come on first day of school, come on! LOL). It is very hard to find time as a couple once the kids come and it's terribly easy to keep putting it off (and you shouldn't).