Grrrr

[stormbourne]

Yes, I am new too. I guess I didn't introduce myself and I am sorry, but I have to rant right now. I am so mad at the world!!!!
I started working in a "nursing home" as an aide last weekend, to help me pay for bills while I am in school to become a nurse. I can't stand how coldly and inhumane some of the aides treat the poor people. They are so miserable, lonely and often forgotten. They're going to die in that place, with their last memories being tossed around like ragdolls and treated like animals, with no respect or dignity. And what can I do about it? Complain, and possibly lose my job. Ok, so I complained about a lady picking up an old woman on blood thinners like a ragdoll and plopping her down in the wheelchair to go to dinner. She was supposed to be training me and I didn't know what to say or do but the lady can't talk very much or respond well physically either, she just looked at me with those eyes, saying please help.. All I could do is take her down to the dining room, and put my hand on her shoulder. I told the LPN on duty and she said she would report to the DON. I hope something gets done about it, but I know this is just a tiny piece of the whole picture. This happens everywhere. I am losing my faith in humanity!
Today, I saw a man walking into the thrift store with his daughter, where I was looking for some odds and ends. She had NO coat on. This is Winter in Ohio. They are from Mexico, where it is normally much warmer this time of year... and I thought, perhaps she lost hers and he's getting a new coat... but when he came in he went over to look at the exercise machines. I felt so bad for the girl I went over and asked him if she needed a coat, went over to the kids section and picked out a coat for her. When she said she liked pink, I found a nice pink hoodie she could wear, took it to the register and gave it to her "para ti" .. He said gracias.. what would he have done if I hadn't been there to feel sorry for her? I couldn't watch her go back out into the cold without a coat!
To make things worse I found out today my own flesh and blood, my sister, 8 years my senior has abandoned her children. She plays world of warcraft all day and spends any money she gets on playtime or cigarettes. She is a disgrace, she.. argh, I can't even begin to express how it makes me feel.. ill, insanely ill. My mother did a similar thing to us when we were kids. I am a single mom, no family or friends to help me but I live for them, and I would never abandon them or put them in harms way. I was 17 when I had my first son but I was more mature then than she ever will be.
So, now you see why I like snakes so much. They are not cruel a*holes that intentionally harm those around them. *sigh*

[joepythons]

Yes, I am new too. I guess I didn't introduce myself and I am sorry, but I have to rant right now. I am so mad at the world!!!!
I started working in a "nursing home" as an aide last weekend, to help me pay for bills while I am in school to become a nurse. I can't stand how coldly and inhumane some of the aides treat the poor people. They are so miserable, lonely and often forgotten. They're going to die in that place, with their last memories being tossed around like ragdolls and treated like animals, with no respect or dignity. And what can I do about it? Complain, and possibly lose my job. Ok, so I complained about a lady picking up an old woman on blood thinners like a ragdoll and plopping her down in the wheelchair to go to dinner. She was supposed to be training me and I didn't know what to say or do but the lady can't talk very much or respond well physically either, she just looked at me with those eyes, saying please help.. All I could do is take her down to the dining room, and put my hand on her shoulder. I told the LPN on duty and she said she would report to the DON. I hope something gets done about it, but I know this is just a tiny piece of the whole picture. This happens everywhere. I am losing my faith in humanity!
Today, I saw a man walking into the thrift store with his daughter, where I was looking for some odds and ends. She had NO coat on. This is Winter in Ohio. They are from Mexico, where it is normally much warmer this time of year... and I thought, perhaps she lost hers and he's getting a new coat... but when he came in he went over to look at the exercise machines. I felt so bad for the girl I went over and asked him if she needed a coat, went over to the kids section and picked out a coat for her. When she said she liked pink, I found a nice pink hoodie she could wear, took it to the register and gave it to her "para ti" .. He said gracias.. what would he have done if I hadn't been there to feel sorry for her? I couldn't watch her go back out into the cold without a coat!
To make things worse I found out today my own flesh and blood, my sister, 8 years my senior has abandoned her children. She plays world of warcraft all day and spends any money she gets on playtime or cigarettes. She is a disgrace, she.. argh, I can't even begin to express how it makes me feel.. ill, insanely ill. My mother did a similar thing to us when we were kids. I am a single mom, no family or friends to help me but I live for them, and I would never abandon them or put them in harms way. I was 17 when I had my first son but I was more mature then than she ever will be.
So, now you see why I like snakes so much. They are not cruel a*holes that intentionally harm those around them. *sigh*

Take a deep breath .I agree the nursing homes are worthless .A word of advice though watch your back as they can make you out to be either the snitch or the one hurting the patiants .As far as your sister is concerned all i can say is Dept of childrens services.If it was my sister i would turn her worthless behind in and give them kids a better chance at life

[python.princess]

I agree the nursing homes are worthless

I'd have to disagree with you there. While not all employees are the greatest people (understatement), nursing homes are vital to many people's lives. Not everybody has family to look after them. Alot of these elderly people wouldn't be able to survive on their own.

As far as your sister is concerned all i can say is Dept of childrens services.If it was my sister i would turn her worthless behind in and give them kids a better chance at life

The way I interpreted the OP, her sister no longer has her kids. If this is the case, calling CPS isn't going to do any good. I'd have a long serious talk with my sister and tell her that things can not keep on like they have been and explain all the reasons. Logically, don't make it seem like an attack. And, hopefully, she'll see things more clearly and want to change for the better. And eventually get her kids back.


Stormbourne, I wish you the best of luck with everything!

[joepythons]

I'd have to disagree with you there. While not all employees are the greatest people (understatement), nursing homes are vital to many people's lives. Not everybody has family to look after them. Alot of these elderly people wouldn't be able to survive on their own.



The way I interpreted the OP, her sister no longer has her kids. If this is the case, calling CPS isn't going to do any good. I'd have a long serious talk with my sister and tell her that things can not keep on like they have been and explain all the reasons. Logically, don't make it seem like an attack. And, hopefully, she'll see things more clearly and want to change for the better. And eventually get her kids back.


Stormbourne, I wish you the best of luck with everything!

Majority of the nursing homes in my area are 110% worthless workers that only care about a paycheck.I have reported several and because they are state run it goes over deaf ears.The other part she said her sister "abandoned" and i took it as she ignores them for her game time.I could be wrong in my understanding though

[stormbourne]

My sister has been leeching off family members for years. She never gets a job. her older son went to juvenile hall and she moved out of state with her husband and younger child. When her son got out of juvie he went to his father's mother's house to live. When my sister split up with her husband she moved in with my aunt, and eventually got kicked out after over a year of not finding a job or enrolling her 6 year old son in school. All she did was play world of warcraft. I live 8 hours from my aunt, in Ohio. I looked up numbers to resources to help her and offered them but I couldn't do anything else. I was afraid to call children's services, and I didn't know what else I could say to her. When she got kicked out she moved in with some internet friends somewhere else. They kicked her out there too, for not getting a job after 2 months. Eventually she dropped her son off at his dad's house in Alabama and moved to another state with some new internet friend. I resent her already because I have been on my own since 17, pretty much. I have never had any support from my family or any friends, and I have made it this far. I am enrolled in nursing school so that I can make a living and be a role model for my kids, and here she sits on her rear end leeching off of family members, when she's 8 years older than me and married (well technically, she was married and leeching off family for years, the split up was recent) She asked if I had room for them at one point. She would have done the same to me. If I weren't trying to juggle a job, school and 2 kids all by myself I would have offered to take her son and enroll him in school here. I seriously considered it but I would have had to drop out of school to make that work, since I have no support of my own.

[ChAMOUFLAGED]

Without going into a complete bio here, I will say I've worked in the medical field for over 20 yrs now and I can feel your pain....
I've done CNA up to Administration... and things don't change, just the people.
I am currently managing a large Homecare & Hospice Agency caring for Peds to Geriatric. Granted, some things you see in SNF's and ALF's can turn your stomach, but so can some of the things people do to their ailing loved ones... right in the privacy of their own homes.

Just remember the "shining stars", if you don't you WILL loose all faith in humanity! While it may feel overwhelming to try to "fix the world", try starting with just your corner of it

Can we say "Coats for Kids!" ... You rock!!

And... give your sister a chance.... Addiction is addiction, whether it be drugs, gambling or "gaming". She needs help, don't give up on her now.... Take a sec and think of how much worse it could be.....

[ChAMOUFLAGED]

Wow, I didn't see your second post when I added my first reply. I am sorry about your sister..... Too bad it's the kids that suffer the most... Hope your sister seeks the help she needs before noone cares anymore....

[starmom]

A million years ago I was a CNA in a nursing home. I very much hated the disrespect that the elders received. Their end of life was treated as chore to be done in the least amount of time possible so that you could finish the rounds on the section of the floor you were responsible for in the alloted time. Yuck. Needless to say, that was not my style. Since I did my job well, they could not fire me but made my life at work insufferable and then actually paid me to leave! Incredible!
I must say though that things are changing. Many Baby Boomers will not choose to have their care in that sort of environment. More and more people are choosing in-home care and this, in my opinion, can only be better. I am happy that there is a good person, a person to give care, to the elders in your charge. Everyone deserves dignity and so much more, in their final lifetime cycle and I am glad that there is at least one other person who feels the same way.
BTW, kudos for buying the hoodie for the child. I usually buy prescriptions for those who can't afford it~ and never forget that there are a lot of people like us.....