Question for Female Herpers! (but guys are welcome, too.)

[Productmur]

I have a question for my fellow female herpers out there with significant others--

Does anyone else's husband/boyfriend/thing limit you on your reptiles (or even say you can't have any at all)?

I ask because my (albeit temporary) cap is apparently two (-pouts like a 4-year-old-), which is ridiculous to me and, I'm guessing, to many other breeders. I'm not asking for 20 snakes, by the way--I'm simply asking for a female ball python so that I may start allowing her to grow for future breeding. I have the enclosures necessary, extra herp supplies--I would literally just need a water bowl and a thermometer/hygrometer. I even have the money to get it. Hmph. xD

/pouting. I was just wondering because I always see this the other way around: the wife saying no more, but never the guy--am I just missing it?

[jclaiborne]

Well since you said guys are welcome too, my wife is normally the one that says no more, but everytime we go to resupply our frozen feeders she finds something else she wants, and I'm a firm believer of "happy wife, happy life" lol so I haven't told her no yet, this is also why we have 5 dogs!

[Shann]

Don't think it helps you, but since you asked, lol, my boyfriend's only rule (we don't live together, different states atm, been together 8 years) is that I talk to him before getting any new animal so we can discuss it together, and make the decision after we hear what the other has to say. He is completely fine with me getting more reptiles as long as he feels we are at a point where we can make the commitment. But he is a huge animal lover. He just doesn't want me to surprise him with a new pet.

[Stewart_Reptiles]

I am married to someone that went from being scared of snakes to tolerating them, regardless of his feeling toward snakes at no point what there a “I don’t want snakes in our house” or “so many is the limit”

We support each other’s hobbies whether we understand one another’s hobby or not.

As far as a number it is whatever I can care for by myself and of course what I can provide for financially as well (Knowing that I support all the financial aspect of my hobby)

My husband as no idea how many snakes are in this house nor does he care so long he does not have to be involved

[MootWorm]

Yep I sure do! I started out with my bf not being comfortable around snakes... Now he has one of his own, plus the two I bought for a joint anniversary gift I do want to get more snakes, but he's at a point where it's "Do we really need more snakes right now?". So it doesn't look like I'll be getting any more for the time being. Unless I can find an adult female hognose....

[M&NSnakeDen]

My bf is mostly supportive. He got me into the hobby and I just ran with it. 1 turned to 2 then to turned to 7, going on 10 in a couple months. He says "why don't you spend that money on something else that we could use?" Etc.

If he ever downright said "no, you're not allowed.....well, lets just say a new rack would replace his computer desk.

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[Productmur]

jclairborne, that's also my philosophy. Women can get evil. xD

Deborah, this is why I don't get it. He's not afraid of snakes--he owns the male corn. And I've told him I don't mind what he does with his money as long as he can afford it (he has a gun hobby), and yet I cannot do the same? I wanna beat him with logic.

Mootworm, you can get a female adult? Still more than what I can get. I got the no even on a female adult corn that would've been breedable this year (we currently have a male and female corn), AND was oh so genetically compatible with our multi-gene male! Ugh, so frustrating! x.x

[Mike41793]

I wouldn't be with someone who tried to tell me what to do with my money haha.

I think its important to be open and discuss with your partner about what you're spending, if its joint money or big purchases. But if its my own spending money, not for bills or whatnot, then i wouldn't let anyone tell me what to do with it.

EDIT: also i would look at this thread without really bringing gender into it. I don't think wives should restrict husbands and i dont think husbands should restrict wives. Within reason of course of course lol.

[jclaiborne]

jclairborne, that's also my philosophy. Women can get evil. xD

Deborah, this is why I don't get it. He's not afraid of snakes--he owns the male corn. And I've told him I don't mind what he does with his money as long as he can afford it (he has a gun hobby), and yet I cannot do the same? I wanna beat him with logic.

Mootworm, you can get a female adult? Still more than what I can get. I got the no even on a female adult corn that would've been breedable this year (we currently have a male and female corn), AND was oh so genetically compatible with our multi-gene male! Ugh, so frustrating! x.x

haha... the only reason I would question bringing another animal home was if we didn't have the means to care for it.

[Crazymonkee]

Well my ex husband wouldn't allow snakes, but I went from 1 dog to 4 in a matter of a year and also had 4 cats.
My significant other now... not an issue on anything

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