Need some mental help.

[xFenrir]

So long story short, I was at the bar with my friend the other night, and I was chatting to a guy there cause my friend was off doing her single thing (I had told the guy I have a boyfriend). His brother came up about the same time my friend came and found me and she took a liking to the guy's brother. They invited us to hang out with them since they were leaving and since I thought my friend and the guy's brother wanted to get better acquainted I said sure. We went over to their house (maybe 5-10 minutes away) and we and their roommate hung out for a bit, then my friend, myself, the guy and his brother went for a walk. We split up to give them privacy for whatever they wanted to do and the guy and I hung out by this river/stream for a bit. My dumb ass (which had had a couple drinks) decided to walk through the stream and it was deeper than I thought and my shorts got soaked. I'm terrified of getting diseases (it didn't help that I had read that article about the girl who contracted that flesh-eating disease from a river just from having a cut on her leg) and when my friend called me asking where I was and if we could go I asked the guy if I could borrow their shower to wash off from the water. He let me and I asked if there was any way I could borrow some pants or something (since I felt it would defeat the purpose of washing off just to put the same pants back on) and he gave me a pair of shorts. Then I went and got my friend and the guy drove us back to our car. He said he wanted the shorts back, but I've texted him asking how to get them back to him and he never responded.

I don't know why, because I'm positive I can remember everything that happened and I know that I NEVER kissed or even touched the guy in any inappropriate way, but I'm oddly anxious/almost guilty-feeling. I have no idea why, and told my friends and even my boyfriend everything and they all said there's nothing I should be worrying about. My boyfriend wasn't mad or anything either. I don't know why I feel this way, maybe because I think since it "looked bad" to come home wearing a pair of guy's shorts that aren't my boyfriends that something should've happened and there should be a reason for me to be feeling terrible. But I'm positive I remember the night, I definitely would've known if something happened. Why am I so worried? Is it because that maybe I think that "what if I really can't remember everything?" and I'm freaking myself out? I have no idea.

[Nate]

You did nothing.

You told the truth to your bf, rather than letting it slip up later on (making it suspicious).

Are you feeling guilty cuz you kinda sorta might like the guy?

[Royal Hijinx]

Sounds pretty cut and dry to me that there is not an issue here. Of course, get that guy his stuff back, but otherwise I would not sweat it.

[xFenrir]

I don't think I like the guy in that way. I thought he was chill but I didn't really feel any attraction to him that I really noticed. And I feel no urge to see/hang out with him again. I would be happier if he never contacted me actually and I could just forget all about it.

I already gave the shorts to a friend since he didn't get back to me. I figured that way if he ever did want them back I know where they are, but they aren't hanging around my house.

[Royal Hijinx]

Well, then done and done. It is cool that you were very up front with everyone involved.

[xFenrir]

I think what's really bothering me is that I'm being the nice person that I am and actually worrying about whether or not I led the guy on by accident or something when I should be "cold-hearted" and not give two stuff-that-comes-out-of-your-butt (pardon my language). I've been told that sometimes it seems like I'm being "flirty" when I honestly think I'm just being friendly.

[liv]

I think what's really bothering me is that I'm being the nice person that I am and actually worrying about whether or not I led the guy on by accident or something when I should be "cold-hearted" and not give two stuff-that-comes-out-of-your-butt (pardon my language). I've been told that sometimes it seems like I'm being "flirty" when I honestly think I'm just being friendly.

If he was interested in you, he would have texted you back. I don't think you have to worry at all about having led him on

[Royal Hijinx]

You have the curse of being a very hot girl, and pretty much every guy who meets you is interested on some level. I would not worry about it. Seems you acted very appropriately, and did not sound like you were leading anyone on.

[Mike41793]

I dont see a problem here lol

[CherryPython]

I think you could just feel uncomfortable? It's difficult to explain, you might feel like it came across that you were leading him on in some tiny way when you actually didn't but with people saying you come across as flirty when you're actually being friendly may make you think otherwise...if that makes any sense?

I know how you feel in that respect. I have a lot of guy friends, I find girls hard to get along with. Therefore, according to every girl that sees me with a guy, I'm a flirty dirty sleeparound!

A couple of months ago I went for a drink with a friend... Her partners step-father was at the pub. She says that what happened is a "rite of passage" in order to be his friend. Don't think so. We were chatting, I was being friendly, he had an interest in snakes. Next thing you know the guy's grabbed me from behind, yanked and bent me backwards and started attempting to french kiss me?! apparently I have "no choice, everybody has to do it".

After eventually managing to wrench myself free, I left. I kept it to myself for a month, because I felt so so so guilty. Almost like I had cheated on Grant, and I didn't want him to be angry and I was really scared. When I told him he was calm and collected and said it was okay. Then told me later on if he ever sees the bloke he's going to lay him out.

You don't have anything to feel guilty about, you didn't do anything. I think if you'd have gone home in no shorts he might have been a bit more concerned