So when my boyfriend and I started dating, I already had 3 snakes, and was planning on purchasing more. He knew of my plans to breed and was all gung ho. Well now we have 15.

Recently he has been pulling on the brakes really hard. He gets upset when I pair my BPs, and gets really mad if I mention buying more snakes. He told me a few weeks ago he was going to buy me a visible morph when we go to the white plains show, but now he gets mad when he sees me perusing fauna.

He decided - without consulting me - that we HAD to sell a few of our snakes. I agreed, but was rather upset that he didn't even consult me before deciding on who we were getting rid of and why. He also doesn't want me breeding because I can't "prove" how many babies we will end up with. He doesn't want to end up with 30+ snakes at once - when he knows full well that was my goal in the first place.

It got worse a few days ago. I have an opportunity to "borrow" a local breeders Spider to breed with one or two of my normal females, and we would split the clutch(es) down the middle. Well Sam got MAD. He didn't want ANY of it. I'm getting really upset with his wishy washyness, and I would really like him to make up his mind.

I do 90% of the work for all the pets we have, not just the snakes. Though he insists on using coconut husk for his baby IJ's bedding, and I'm allergic to it - he does everything for her, and most everything for his dragon. But the rodents, fish, cats, amphibs and other snakes I do. I pay for around 80% of the food and bedding. I bought all the enclosures. I bought all the flexwatt, thermos, tubs...Everything almost. And yet I still get into huge fights over something that I thought was going to happen.

I feel like even though I take care of all of us, work almost full time, go to school full time and keep the world in my house sane, I have no control over my own hobby. I'm not sure if it will get better after we sell the 5 snakes we have decided to. Two of them are male normals, and probably aren't even worth posting online, because their shipping alone would be twice as much as their price to begin with. I don't know if I should feel bad for him for kinda bombarding him with this - though he has known about all this for a year, and we've been dating for 8 months..

I'm at a loss of what to do, cause if he is freaking over having 15 snakes, whats he going to do when we do get back down to 10 and have babies hatching? What then?

Anybody else had/have a remotely similar problem?