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Military Spouses?
Just wondering who out there is a Military Spouse. More specifically, Air Force...
I'm a soon to be one Getting married sometime next year, during the summer. After my SO finishes BMT and Tech, and after I graduate HS.
My SO leaves for BMT Nov. 28th... (83 days) And quite honestly... I think I'm more nervous than him Probably because now, 8 weeks seems like a LONG time... Even though I'll be very very busy as I have to study for end of course/ mid-term exams... Then the 10 weeks after that for his Tech School (he's contracted to be a firefighter, so we have absolutely no way to narrow down where he'll go after Tech...)
We're both hoping he gets stationed at Eglin AFB, or Hurlburt Field, or even Duke Field., Since we live in the southern half (below Crestview) of Okaloosa Co., Fl.
So, I just have a couple questions 
-Did you get married before or after your SO joined the military?
-If you got married before, or were together before, did their BMT seem long?
Ugh... I completely forgot the others but anything else you want to include, please feel free
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Re: Military Spouses?
Oh gosh...I could go on forever! 
Spent two years in Crestview, FL just recently, as hubby was commanding a squadron out at Hurlburt Field.
We got married in Sept of 1990, and went Active Duty in Dec of the same year. He went through ROTC in college, so I didn't have to worry about basic or tech schools. We attended his initial school together at Mather AFB in Calif. (Now closed)
During that school, he had to go away for a month to attend Survival Training. I have to admit, I cried hard when he left, and spent a lot of time on the phone with family back in Texas.
Now...if he leaves on a month-long trip...we have an extra long kiss before he leaves and I have to remind him to call me. It's simply not a big deal. Long deployments to a war zone are a little more traumatic, but even that...you have to get used to, or at least learn to deal with.
Yes, it seems like a long time. The military is very hard on young marriages and especially young people in young marriages. You have to be willing to go through that, and stay strong and stay trusting. If you can't take care of yourself...or if you can't bring yourself to trust your man when he's away for so long...you might want to think long and hard about what you'll be getting into before you get married.
The early years were the hardest...long trips were common. He traveled the world, and I stayed home taking care of babies. It was NOT easy. Certain aspects of it are still not easy, even 20 years later......but worth it? Yeah....very much so. We're a VERY strong couple. Not just spouses, but bestest friends and partners in everything. This kind of relationship doesn't just happen because we're so "in love" as young adults.....it forges in the fires of life and experience....and trust the military to heat up those fires even hotter. It'll either make you brittle....or unbreakable.
Sorry for waxing poetic there.... ...our 21st anniversary is just around the corner and I'm feeling a bit...mushy. 
Feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk a little more in depth about what it's like.
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My sister married her highschool sweetheart after he joined the military. It was hard for her, it still is, even after 12 years. The only thing keeping her at least semi sane is her kiddos when he is away at sand camp or wherever they feel the need to deploy him for months at a time. A military wife is not an easy life, but it is very rewarding.
That is all I can really add to this, but I thank both of you for your sacrifices for our freedom.
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