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    Ignore it. I don't get much of that really. Unless you know me you would never know I keep snakes. I never advertise it and I don't take them outside unless it's for a quick picture in the good light.

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    Re: Negative comments

    Quote Originally Posted by Mc.mischievous7 View Post
    What do they say about girls who into snakes? I never heard of that one before. I believe Ima just stop telling ppl I have a snake because the ones who know already is giving me a headache. Lol

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    I responded with, "Well, they probably say they like snakes," and the conversation ended, lol. I didn't really want to hear what he had to say after that.

    I used to tell everyone who would listen I had a snake just because I was so excited about him, but I think it would save me a few headaches to just keep it to myself, lol.

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    Re: Negative comments

    Quote Originally Posted by Sonny1318 View Post
    My personal favorites are when they tell you that keeping snakes is unholy or some other nonsense about the devil being a serpent. Please don’t make me laugh ��!
    Let's just say that the town I live in has MORE than it's share of churches & church-goers, and when someone says something nasty about snakes I respond with "if God
    created the world & made all the creatures then didn't he (or 'she' ) make snakes too?" That has actually sunk in... (sigh)

    But on the plus side, one of the churches here has a yearly "Blessing of the Animals" and whenever the weather is good (it's outside)
    I've attended with a snake, and got surprisingly open & friendly interest...so there's hope!
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    Re: Negative comments

    Quote Originally Posted by luckydoll View Post
    I responded with, "Well, they probably say they like snakes," and the conversation ended, lol. I didn't really want to hear what he had to say after that.

    I used to tell everyone who would listen I had a snake just because I was so excited about him, but I think it would save me a few headaches to just keep it to myself, lol.
    Same with me. I'm just excited I got a Mojave BP as a pet and i wanted to share my excitement with everyone. Just didnt expect the response to the news to be so negative. Guess I will have to do what most of you all said. -Ignore them-

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    Negative comments

    One woman I told in our staff room was disgusted when I mentioned that our kids loved feeding the pigeons so she was extremely quick to 'pipe up' when someone else exclaimed 'Michael HAS snakes !!' ...

    She made it clear that she was physically disgusted at the thought .

    I was so shocked I said " you do know that Donna has a Royal python , Becky has a Corn snake and Caroline has a Python , a Gecko and a bladdy Tarantula !!
    All true but it wasn't common knowledge... they hadn't actively hidden their snakes just not advertised them to all and sundry


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    I think we all have a different level of tolerance for negative comments, but IF you can handle some without too much anger & stress, it's our chance to present the
    "other side" (pro- snake) & that's important because they sure cannot speak for themselves. It does no good (in terms of changing minds) to keep our pets secret.

    It also matters about the "time & place"- if you're at work & your boss hates snakes, your silence is probably "golden". Likewise, if you work with the public as
    I did for many years you have to be cautious (polite) about how you answer (disagree) & not offend anyone.

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    Re: Negative comments

    Quote Originally Posted by Mc.mischievous7 View Post
    The reason why my bf dont like me having a snake.

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    It's your life but no one should be with someone who disrespects their pet...leaving my ex who was a jerk about my snake was literally one of the best decisions I have ever made. Usually people like that tend to to be rude about other parts of your life too.

    My current bf isn't a big fan of snakes but he knows that I love them and he respects that. He is willing to handle her and listens when I talk about her. He doesn't love snakes and maybe he never will but that's okay because he is kind and understanding about my interests.
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    Re: Negative comments

    Quote Originally Posted by Bogertophis View Post
    I think we all have a different level of tolerance for negative comments, but IF you can handle some without too much anger & stress, it's our chance to present the
    "other side" (pro- snake) & that's important because they sure cannot speak for themselves. It does no good (in terms of changing minds) to keep our pets secret.

    It also matters about the "time & place"- if you're at work & your boss hates snakes, your silence is probably "golden". Likewise, if you work with the public as
    I did for many years you have to be cautious (polite) about how you answer (disagree) & not offend anyone.
    Yea that is true!

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    When challenged (& appropriate to time & place) you can point out (for example): that most snakes are very fussy eaters (we don't smell like their food!), &
    that they actually aren't out to bite us but instead bite out of fear & self-defense- & remind them how big & scary we appear to snakes. Explain that snakes
    rely on their excellent sense of smell & touch (instead of vision to identify things) & that they are deaf. <many ppl don't realize that...they'll say they yelled
    at a snake to leave their yard & killed it when it wouldn't... When you can point out something about snakes that the person doesn't know, they may then
    realize that their information may be all wrong...even if they don't admit it to you at the time, they may think about it. I've had people come back to ask more
    questions once they were intrigued with some "new" information. Just crack open the door & let some "light" in, if & when you can.

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    Re: Negative comments

    Most people who know me know that I have snakes. Iíve kept snakes for 27 years, so they are gonna hear about them eventually...if not from me then from other friends. Iíll share with friends when I have a new purchase or take a really nice photo. I even share a few photos on FB. Some folks have come around and think they are pretty or kind of cute. Some folks arenít into them, but keep most comments in the civil mode. And some folks are just rude and make ugly comments. Iíve had plenty of years to get used to the wide range of comments, and Iíve been able to educate some folks about them. It evens out for the most part.

    I have several relatives that will not come to my house...possibly a bonus to snakes as pets? I also have one friend who is truly terrified of snakes, however he will come to the house because he knows they are in locked cages in a separate room. He canít see them, so he can pretend they arenít there. The guy I dated before I met my other half gave me the ultimatum of ďthe snakes or meĒ. It didnít work out quite like he planned. When I met my other half, he was not into snakes...but he was into me, so he was willing to learn. While they were never his thing, he learned about them and helped with them...including being an advocate for them as pets when others made negative comments. He was by my side for 22 1/2 years. ❤️ Iím not looking for another relationship, but anyone who didnít support me wouldnít even be a consideration. What I will tolerate from friends or acquaintances is not acceptable from someone who is supposed to be my partner.

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