New Reptile!

[andrewross8705]

First of all, I re-homed my snake because she was aggressive and I didn't have the experience needed to help her come out of it. Nor did I have the time, considering that I'm getting ready to start back in my 3rd year of college. It would absolutely NOT have been fair to her for me to keep her with the lack of knowledge and time given the circumstances. Secondly, my girlfriend has done her research. The animal has been hers from the get-go. So when I asked for advice, I wasn't blindly asking for directions. Just tips that some may have. And seeing as we have two other snakes whom we would never dream of getting rid of, I'd say that it's not a revolving door of animals. So, if you're gonna be rude than you can just feel free to not reply.


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There's a difference between CC and being rude, and you were coming off as pretty rude in my opinion. What happens with the leopard gecko is not my decision, seeing as it belongs to my girlfriend. However, I don't see her getting rid of it because she's already wanting to get more and has wanted a Leo for quite a while now. As for the tank, it has been cleaned.


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I kept my post short and to the point because I hadn't had my coffee and was walking into work but planned to come back and address issues I had in more depth later but Craig beat me to it. I don't see him being rude and he didn't come off as such in my opinion. You asked for advice and he responded. I feel the same way because I saw the previous thread, pictures and then see a gecko in the same exact tank. Did you clean the moss as well?

Saying "what happens with the leopard gecko is not my decision, seeing as it belongs to my girlfriend" is concerning. As for wanting to get more. This is a juvie, not an adult so what happens if you two get more juvies and then decide they aren't for you when they are full grown adults? People have every right to be concerned as leopard geckos are tossed aside as much as other reptiles when people grow bored of them, don't like having to keep crickets or mealworms and the impression you're giving people is that you rehomed one reptile and dropped another in the previous reptile's tank which is cause for concern. At the end of the day, people are going to be blunt and honest because they care more about the animal's well being than they do of someone's feelings. I can speak from personal experience in doing that as I've rescued a number of reptiles over the years and continue to do such.

[LivingDeadGirl]

I kept my post short and to the point because I hadn't had my coffee and was walking into work but planned to come back and address issues I had in more depth later but Craig beat me to it. I don't see him being rude and he didn't come off as such in my opinion. You asked for advice and he responded. I feel the same way because I saw the previous thread, pictures and then see a gecko in the same exact tank. Did you clean the moss as well?

Saying "what happens with the leopard gecko is not my decision, seeing as it belongs to my girlfriend" is concerning. As for wanting to get more. This is a juvie, not an adult so what happens if you two get more juvies and then decide they aren't for you when they are full grown adults? People have every right to be concerned as leopard geckos are tossed aside as much as other reptiles when people grow bored of them, don't like having to keep crickets or mealworms and the impression you're giving people is that you rehomed one reptile and dropped another in the previous reptile's tank which is cause for concern. At the end of the day, people are going to be blunt and honest because they care more about the animal's well being than they do of someone's feelings. I can speak from personal experience in doing that as I've rescued a number of reptiles over the years and continue to do such.

To be quite honest, the tank that the gecko is in is NOT the same one as the snake. I swapped that tank for the one my male bp was in, though both tanks have been cleaned. I swapped it because the tank that the gecko is now in has a mini UTH, and the other did not. Either way, we do our research before we jump into getting animals. Getting rid of my snake was something that I did because I thought it was in her best interest. Did I want to re-home her? No. I only did so in order to provide her with a better environment, with someone who knows more about handling and taming snakes than I do. So if everyone would just hop off my case about the snake, it would be appreciative. I thought that I was doing the right thing and quite frankly, that's all that matters to me. I wanted her to have a good home and I didn't just re-home her to the first person who was interested.


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[MissterDog]

Saying "what happens with the leopard gecko is not my decision, seeing as it belongs to my girlfriend" is concerning.

Seconding this. Op that statement comes across as very dismissing. Considering how quickly the two of you got your leopard gecko shortly after rehoming your snake, a lot of us were starting to get worried and are just trying to get some details clarified. I don't think anyone here is judging you.

[brandi.caruso]

So first off, its my leopard gecko. And I have done weeks of research prior to even getting my first ball python. A Leo was going to be my first choice of reptile but I ended up rescuing a starved ball python. That in mind, I know how to take care of him. He has everything he needs and it wasn't just some half assed decision. Furthermore, the choice of getting rid of Nagini was something we and others have pondered for a while. My girlfriend had gotten advice and help from many different owners and of breeders. Nothing was helping with her. Since you educated folks weren't around to take witness to her attitude and all around characteristics/health then it's not really for you to speak up on the "just got rid of her for another" And there is a difference from constructive criticism and being a mean. We have two very healthy bps that are spoiled rotten. She was scared of everyone and everything, and we tried everything people could think of to help her. So, she went to a very experienced owner that will keep us updated on her progress and we'll being. So don't make a post about MY new leopard gecko a reason to argue pointless nonsense about reptiles you don't really care about in the first place.


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[Kira]

Whoa there, cool your jets. We just think it's a bit odd to get a new reptile on the SAME day that you got rid of a different one. Everyone is just concerned about your pets, no one is trying to personally attack you.

Ball pythons are generally very docile so I really think that if you would have given it more time, she would have calmed down.

Also we were concerned because we don't want your gecko to potentially get the same virus that Nagini did so we had to confirm that it was either a cleaned cage or a different cage.

Believe or not, the people here are just trying to help.

[tttaylorrr]

So don't make a post about MY new leopard gecko a reason to argue pointless nonsense about reptiles you don't really care about in the first place.

we didn't make a post, your SO did.

if we didn't care, all of your posts combined would have 0 replies.

check your attitude at the door; that's not how you make friends.

whether you believe the constructive criticism provided to you was rude does not negate the fact it was constructive criticism. accept that, learn from the things that were pointed out to you, and move on.

good luck.

[MissterDog]

So first off, its my leopard gecko. And I have done weeks of research prior to even getting my first ball python. A Leo was going to be my first choice of reptile but I ended up rescuing a starved ball python. That in mind, I know how to take care of him. He has everything he needs and it wasn't just some half assed decision. Furthermore, the choice of getting rid of Nagini was something we and others have pondered for a while. My girlfriend had gotten advice and help from many different owners and of breeders. Nothing was helping with her. Since you educated folks weren't around to take witness to her attitude and all around characteristics/health then it's not really for you to speak up on the "just got rid of her for another" And there is a difference from constructive criticism and being a mean. We have two very healthy bps that are spoiled rotten. She was scared of everyone and everything, and we tried everything people could think of to help her. So, she went to a very experienced owner that will keep us updated on her progress and we'll being. So don't make a post about MY new leopard gecko a reason to argue pointless nonsense about reptiles you don't really care about in the first place.

I think we can all appreciate the intent of you flying to LivingDeadGirl's defense, but the aggression isn't doing you or OP any favors.

It seems both you and OP have a very different idea what is considered constructive criticism and what's rude, and frankly, it seems any criticism or voiced concern is being taken as a personal attack. Everyone was responding based on the context that was being provided, which is why many of us were asking for more details to get clarification.

[brandi.caruso]

Honest constructive criticism wouldn't be viewed as an attack. Reread through some of the wording of the posts made to my girlfriend and see why I have an "attitude". If actual questions were being asked there would be an actual difference from opinionated statements that only judge the choices instead of actually understand the necessity or need behind such.


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[LivingDeadGirl]

Actually we know, very well in fact, what constructive criticism is. Maybe some of you guys should take a step back and consider rewording some of the things you said that may have come across as being rude.


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[tttaylorrr]

If actual questions were being asked there would be an actual difference from opinionated statements that only judge the choices instead of actually understand the necessity or need behind such.

Now you bring home another animal the same day??

And you just threw it in the same enclosure?

Is the enclosure even properly set up?

Was it cleaned?

why would you bring another animal home before researching them enough to properly care for the animal??

Is this just going to be a revolving door of animals?

What happens if you don't like everything about the leopard gecko in the next few months?

Will that be re-homed as well?

you mean these questions asked from someone concerned for the animal? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯