I want to buy every python I see- everywhere.

[Zombree]

Okay, so my name is Bree and I am an animal-aholic/addict. I love reptiles, especially the big ones. I want alligators, reticulated pythons, Burmese pythons, dinosaurs, all of them.
I want to love them and give them good homes, scare my boyfriend with them and just dump my adoration onto them. The problem is that I can't really convince my boyfriend that having pythons/alligators everywhere is a good idea for the current time. But it doesn't stop me from trying :x For some reason he thinks all my reptiles will eventually turn on me- once they reach a large enough size.

So what am I supposed to do? Be patient? Everything is so cute and scaly, it's hard to be patient. I love genetics as well and can't wait to fill my home with morphs of all species.
My main concern is that time will pass and he'll eventually just say no to the larger species all together. I would love to override him and purchase them anyway, but such drama and instability is never fair for animals.

Is it normal to give up some of your dreams for your partner? My dreams being the alligator, reticulated python and Burmese python. I started with a baby normal ball python and have since purchased a Boa C. Imperator- Columbian and a bearded dragon. I have loved them all since the moment I brought them home. It makes me sad to think I will have to give up my aspirations for future loves/pythons in order to appease the partner.

Any thoughts or comments? I know this is a random post. I just can't seem to find anyone who understands what I am going through. Everyone usually shoots me down and agrees with him off the bat.
Thank you for reading.

[JMoriarty]

Lmao... This cracked me up. I too have a reptile obsession it seems. Maybe we need to start RA (reptile anonymous)? My problem isn't the boyfriend as much as lack of space and finances, although I don't think the idea of having a 10 foot snake appeals to him as much as it does me. Sigh...

[Zombree]

I would LOVE to start a RA (Reptiles Anonymous)! And I definitely understand you, my boyfriend just doesn't like the sound of 10 foot anything. Perhaps the idea emasculates them?
I am not sure, but it is horribly inconveniencing for those who do like 10 foot animals.

[bcr229]

Over two decades ago I ditched a fiance who thought I spent too much money on my horse. I visited that same horse last weekend - he's almost 30 years old and living the good life at a "retirement boarding" facility. OTOH I can't remember the fiance's last name... and I've since married someone else who doesn't have a problem with having animals.

As long as your love of animals and wanting to have them is not inferfering with mundane matters like paying the rent/mortgage/utilities/car payment/insurance, etc. then you need to choose between keeping this boyfriend in the picture, and keeping animals. That said... keeping big animals = big responsibilities, big messes, big liabilities, big money, etc. and if your boyfriend is not on board with that then he may also figure you're not the girl for him.

[Slim]

A life partner will understand and support your obsessions and your dreams. A BF / GF who is in it for themselves will always find a way to subvert your progress. Which one do you have?

You say it's not as black and white as that? Give it some time. Time and perspective have a way of stripping off shades of grey...

[coldbloodaddict]

lol Dump him! there are plenty of guys out there that like reptiles!


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[Bluebonnet Herp]

That said... keeping big animals = big responsibilities, big messes, big liabilities, big money, etc.

You don't say!

[Marrissa]

Never give up on your dreams for anybody. When I met my boyfriend my plan was to have a fish room and have a decent size show betta breeding operation. When I got into ball pythons that dream changed for a snake room and a slightly bigger ball python breeding operation. He'd rather I go back to the fish (I got him into fish keeping) but he knows there's no way he's stopping me, and while I know he'd prefer it be a different hobby he won't stop me since it makes me happy. I may not enjoy all his hobbies but I'll be there for him because it makes him happy. He's not really an animal person. The extent of what he'll own is a dog and an aquarium. He knows we'll be having quite a few snakes, my horse and maybe another one, and my doggy. Oh and the rats. He really hates them. We've agreed and compromised one where the rats and snakes would go when we get our own house (hopefully this year). If you guys can't come to a happy medium then I think it's time to end it. Don't let anyone change who you are and don't settle for a guy that wants to hold you back. When you're in a relationship both partners should be encouraging to each others goals and dreams, not restraints from them.

[Archimedes]

Here's a way to consider it: it's not his choice what you do. If you want to have big critters, have your big critters! Just make sure that it's a realistic endeavor for you to embark on, especially if you won't have help from him. Do all of your research and set up your enclosures well in advance. If these are realistic, then calculate feeding requirements and costs. Once all of those ducks are in line, then budget your animal. Dreams are amazing and fantastic, and if you can fulfill them, go for it! Don't let any person stand in your way, but be realistic with what is actually possible with your resources and abilities. No one can stand in your way, and if you let them, that's compromising a piece of yourself for another person.

Take care of yourself, and of course your animals!!

[Kodieh]

He's a boyfriend.

That's it. Either he can get with the program or he can get to steppin.

As much as people THINK a boyfriend/girlfriend is a big commitment, it's not. You've decided not to socially date other people and that's about it. Your finances and space is your own.

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